NumberCruncher

if you have donated to any charitable organization that will be sending goods/services to haiti or will be providing transportation to move those goods/volunteers to haiti. NC-17

at least not on a daily basis. no one talks about it.

i was offered this option today as well. went with contacts again though. still having some issues as i'm dilated as crap!!! let me know what your adjustment is like. i'll hafta get a back up pair of specs and might be interested. i was told that my prescription would be different if i went with the comp glasses instead of the regular lenses. was your prescription different?

crap. i didn't even know they put a light in there.

what's to be done, other than donate to the redcross and unicef, and offer prayers? i've done that, and will continue doing that. what else should i personally be doing to show my concern? speaking only of this? thinking only of this? fasting? my agenda is full of things i can actually do to improve my life and afford me the luxury of donating to disaster relief organizations. i have to work. i have to drive. i have to go to an eye appointment. what else is there that i can put on my personal agenda that will make one bit of difference with the regards to the situation in haiti?

are y'all not facebook friends?

take it to a jeweler? maybe call first and make an appointment if it's gonna take very much time.

on yer what?

oreos and regret.

i'll have all the pickling cucumbers you can can next summer. they're the one thing i can grow the hell out of! remind me to plant some for you when we start our garden.

yep. i read only the link with the slide show, and jumped to a conclusion.

reckon what they did with it?

you'd have to find a new caregiver. i know that sounds trite, but it really is as simple as that. if you value a child, you protect it, you make sure there's someone there at all times to raise and love it. even if that means sacfificing your career because there's no one left but yourself. you don't scarifice your unit. you don't sacrifice your mission. you sacrifice yourself. charges, discharge, and single motherhood without one solitary person to help her with this child. pretty bleak, and all avoidable.

the thing about the military is this, you know their rules when you join. it's not something that just comes up on their part. the military can't be expecte dto change just because an individuals circumstances have. it's up to that individual to knwo, without any doubt, that they can conform 100% to the military standards and lifestyle. if you can't do that you have no business enlisting. and your right. 18 years is a long time, and a lot of things can change. this is why single soldier parent hood is frowned upon by so many people.

thank gawd you can speak for her. wanna answer all those questions her doctor forget to mention the answers to?

yes. permanently relieve dof their duty. childbirth is one of those options. (at least it was when i had lil this woman didn't take that option. she took a paycheck, a free house, and free medical care instead. and gave back nothing in return.

hello. it's called a family care plan. legally binding documentation. anytime soldier becomes a single parent, through choice or any other horrific means mentioned here, that single parent is required to name the person who shall be responsible for their children in the event of deployment. it's not a choice between foster care and discharge. it's a choice that a responsible parent makes for the care of their child.

you have lost your ever loving mind. the army would not rather put a child in foster are than have it with it's fit parent. the army would rather that the fit parent, upon discovering that they had no spouse to care for their child, choose and file paperwork for the person who is supposed to care for the child when the fit single parent becomes deployed.

what would you have the commanders do? politely excuse the wonam from her duty? and every other single mom who's enlisted in the armed forces would have to get the same pass.

meh. my husband went there (haiti) to help out in 1994 (or was it early 95?). they tried to cut his ears off. i still hold a grudge. (but not the husband)

which is exactly why i asked her if her doctor was unwilling to discuss this with her, or if he might not be very knowledgeable about this drug in particular.

exactly. with any other job. the same rules do not apply here. any other job, you walk off the company property and say you quit. what happens? um, you quit. no more paycheck. try that with the army. you can't equate what would happen with any other job to what should and does happen with armed services. apples and oranges.

nope. you don't throw children away. you choose a responsible adult to care for them in your absence. like.....your husband or wife. the childs other parent. one of your parents. if you don't have one of those, just one to choose from, what they hell are you doing having a child in the first place??? 15 years ago, when you became pregnant as an enlisted soldier, you were automatically offer the option of honorable discharge. married or not. sensible baby daddy in the picture or not. supportive parents or not. you were given the option to QUIT your job if you thought you wouldn't be able to do

yes, they can. i would hope though, that PC didn't just stop taking her prescribed medication on teh word of Pcommers, without seeing or at least talking to her doctor. i would also hope that her doctor would have taken the time to explain the negative side effects she was experiencing, ask detailed questions to make sure that there weren't any hidden symptoms of further damage, and offer to run tests and blood work to make sure she was ok. some doctors don't have great bedside manners or much time for talk during appointments. some doctors aren't very knowledgeable about every single thi

but she should be discharged from the army. posthaste.