No, I am certainly not judging her. I saw my sister get the crap beat out of her so I made it my life's mission statement to NEVER allow that to happen. Too many people have such bad things happen to them and I feel so bad for them and so want to just be there for them... All the while I just don't understand it. My ex was an abuser and I allowed him to do what I said would never be done but I got out early BECAUSE I had support. When I win the lottery I will have my own Battered Women and Children Shelter so I can help them. I ramble....