DomesticViolenceByProxy

Mental illness is as real as physical illness though the wounds are invisible. People tend to discount the pain of a broken mind over the actual physical pain of say a broken neck. It's easy to tell someone to "get over it" when their injuries are mental and invisible. Much like the injuries suffered in the NFL due to concussions. Until recently no one took concussions seriously but the effects of the damage are indisputable. Though concussions are actual physical injuries, in the old days of the NFL players were expected to keep playing and the true damage only revealed itself later in l

Postman, the father is sitting in a chair across from Dr. Phil and says he believes deep down his daughter didn't want her parents killed. The message is lost on the father and Dr. Phil is in his face. Call it edutainment if you want but Jane is right. Dr. Phil frequently does more harm than good in the name of ratings. He does little if anything to educate his audience.

Genetic imperfections can serve a purpose. Such as sickle-cell disease giving the person afflicted resistance to malaria. The irony is the sorting of defects will probably lead to our own self-extinction. And thinking of all of the exceptional people who might not have been born had a genetic defect been found in advance. Isn't this akin to the forbidden "A" word on PCom? So if you can afford it, the future of your lineage can be refined to become a member of an "Aryan Race"? Where children are bred and raised for superior intelligence or to be the perfect soldier? http://www.youtu

I'm kind of skipping ahead but this was a great catch. This is 3 minutes that encapsulates a narcs ability or inability to mimic empathy to look "normal". This narc is too young to have fine tuned the ability to mimic appropriate response behavior. Dr.Phil has people, on his show, that exhibit personality disorders but he NEVER tells the audience at home what those behaviors encompass. In this case he does, which is amazing. Of course, you can't take on the liability of diagnosing in the segment of a 60 min. show but many of his guests clearly exhibit personality disorders and he uses them for

When used negatively it also has other names, "crazy making" or "ambient abuse". Just as Jane said you don't have to be naive or have a low IQ to be gaslighted but also you don't have to be educated to employ the tactic. I can think of a couple of gaslighters that don't even have a high school diploma but were able to navigate the upper echelons of the corporate world and society as a whole.

That was excellent, but there was no doubt that it would be . Another example of negative gaslighting is when governments re-write history to fool the masses to justify unsavory actions. Like when Iranian leaders tell their people the Holocaust never happened. On the flipside, gaslighting can be used positively to motivate and inspire. Such as telling a small child they accomplished something a little better than they did to inspire them to keep trying. Or if you are an EMT at an accident scene and you tell someone their injuries aren't as bad as they really are to encourage that perso

You really should share to promote awareness. You and Jane have an ability to articulate these behaviors better than I do.

I had to revise to include when a third party is triangulated as a buffer. Kind of like how the old Soviet Union used the Soviet Block countries as a buffer from NATO. Just to reiterate how triangulation can involve individuals, groups of people or entire nations. I have one for ambient abuse/gaslighting/crazy making but it would be great if you shared yours. I actually think you have a better grasp of how to explain these things than I do. From what I've seen you can do it in fewer words. My posts tend to be verbose.

Triangulation is the manipulative use of one or more third parties as the "go between" of two adversaries. Both parties need not know they are rivals. Frequently one party is totally unaware they are being attacked until the damage is done. In negative instances the third party also may or may not be aware they are being used as a rumor spreading tool for the aggressor to gain an advantage over the rival. An example of negative triangulation would be character assassination. Another tactic would be to recruit others, through secrecy and deception, spreading disingenuous misinformation and

It doesn't solve the java script issues but it does solve the html code issues. You notice you don't have the html code in your replies anymore. Yes the rest is up to Pubby.

Next to the username is an arrow for notifications. whether you have a notification or not click on that space (even if it says "0") The pull down won't show up but it will take you to the ucp.

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Thank you! I thought my post was getting a bit long winded so I'm glad you chimed in, Jane.

Splitting (Idealization and Devaluation) - is usually considered in regards to the perceptions of young children or the mentally-ill as seeing people, things or situations in extreme black and white thinking without shades of gray. In other words, all good or all bad, "with me or against me", with no in-between. In young children it is normal and at some point they will grow out of it as their minds develop and mature. In the mentally-ill, splitting is evident in rapidly cycling, unstable mood swings. During the idealization phase (all good), the mentally-ill person will heap praise up

Sadly he is not the only one. The numbers range in the thousands annually. Especially form our military who return home from underways or deployment only to learn they have lost their families.

I am a member of several national/global support and advocacy groups. In the interests of their privacy I can't mention their names but you would be surprised by the members of some of these support groups. They come from all walks of life and all levels of affluence. Money and a good lawyer do not guarantee fairness. In our support groups we provide as much support and information as we have available. Much of it is based on our own experiences as many of us are not mental health professionals though some are. Not being a professional does not diminish our message as alienating parents a

I agree, I cannot judge either. I have no idea what my state of mind would be if I didn't have the love and FULL SUPPORT of 2 of our daughters that chose to live with me at the consequence of losing their baby sister to alienation. That and knowing, in the long term, her love of her sisters, will bring my youngest to see the light.

A father who couldn't live with out his kids and a grandmother who could not live without her son... In memory of David Bates. September 13, 1972- July 1, 2013 In Loving Memory of Sandra Hobbs Gaskins Fallen Fathers

This ruling puts a crack in immunity for family court judges allowing for actions to be filed against them in Federal Court.

This article is a very good read and provides some excellent insight and strategy, taking into consideration that every situation is of it's own. "I have been a judge on the divorce bench for 16 years, and have watched the wreckage of the corrosive legacy of parental alienation and visitation interference play out over decades. We have no statistics for measuring this group, because the victims are too vast. But the concentric circles include the children, their children and the extended family as well. The declaration of war by one parent on another creates radioactive fallout, which c

You really need to see Divorce Corp. I hired a respected attorney in Paulding and she botched the job and took little interest. When people ask who my attorney was they are surprised she did so poorly. You really need to see Divorce Corp. because you haven't a clue what you are talking about. Take the focus off of me and know that the system is failing children. I am an adult I can handle whatever is thrown at me. Criticize me all you want but understand the system is failing children to protect adults! You have no idea what it's like trying to repair emotional and psychological damage. I

What is a waste of LEO resources is false allegations to gain an advantage in a custody battle. A lawyer having a mother arrested while she is in motion court because she tugged her daughter's pony tail. When lawyers use LEOs for unsavory means to a desired end. Sometimes you have no choice but to involve LEOs so you have a credible witness.

GRANDSLAM!! Unfortunately, you have to weather a storm with such a person or be a mental health professional to know what you know!! So many times as it is happening many people can never articulate it as well as you just did, as they are going through it. In the beginning they know something is wrong but they just don't want to believe that anyone could be this evil/sick. They go through the cycles of abuse over and over again. Through tactics such as gaslighting and manipulation of enablers (like the sister you mention), they have you doubting your perception of reality. They tell you "if

Very true, it is difficult but not impossible. It is human nature to want to believe in your fellow man. Especially at a young age. That is why so many in their 40s say the cliche "If I knew then what I know now..." Empathic people are especially susceptible to the desire to believe in others. The lessons come harder to some than others. Just thought I'd add, personally, I've never been married so needless to say, I've never been divorced. I'm raising awareness.