Mama Carol

Hubby is sick for the second time in about a month. Cold symptoms. Some cough and chest congestion but not a lot. More upper respiratory. He has felt so bad it took him three days to change the brakes on the truck. LOL Normally that might have taken two days.

They are rich pigs?

There is no making amends when the actions divide a family, cause lifelong mental anguish for the victims and their families. No amount of money can change that. No words can be spoken to fix that hurt. I know. I've lived that for the past almost two decades. I bought into that "stranger danger" of the 1970s and 1980s all the while totally ignorant of the danger lurking within the family. Being blamed by the offender for the family division because we held those guilty accountable when we finally learned what had gone on. Being blamed by the victims because we did not know what was goin

EXACTLY!!! It does not matter what party someone is a member of. It does not matter what you call it. It's wrong and to say "well, he did apologize" makes it sound like it is OK. It's NOT. Ever!

By saying "but he apologized", you are saying it is OK that he did it because he apologized. Apologies do not heal the hurt. They can help with forgiveness and acceptance but they can never undo the damage nor do they incite memory loss. They simply cannot restore what was lost--trust and self-esteem primarily. By saying "but he didn't do it to this particular extent", you are saying it is OK because it wasn't to that level. That's like saying it was OK for me to run over you with my car because it was a Toyota but I couldn't run over you with my F250 because that was a higher level

So groping is OK because it's a prank?

I'm just saying it is NEVER, repeat NEVER OK to grope women. There is no "level up" to it.

Thanks for the clarification. I was not sure how it worked. If you do something once, it's a mistake. If you do something twice, it's a choice.

Let's see if I have this straight. It's OK to grope women if you apologize for it. Does that just about sum it up?

Hubby is doing a brined turkey on the Big Green Egg. I have a friend's recipe for potato salad that I'm going to do, as well as roasted sweet potatoes (with cinnamon and brown sugar, oh so yummy!!), probably some greens or green beans and a pecan pie or two. Daughter is bringing rolls and cranberry sauce. I know I'll get lots of help on Turkey Day from the grandkids. Dru loves to set the table so we designated Starr as the one to clean off the table. Not sure Starr knows this yet though. It will be our first real Thanksgiving with these two little moppets. Through the past years

There is NEVER a time that is appropriate. And yes, way too many females (and males) who have had to deal with this through the years.

Does that change the fact that it happened and she has to deal with the psychological (and perhaps physical) consequences of his actions? An apology is great but it doesn't turn back the clock to before the incident and restore things to their pre-event status. You can't smash a cup to the floor, shattering it into hundreds of pieces, apologize and everything goes back the same way it was before. Doesn't work that way. She will always know what happened. That will NEVER, ever leave her. She can forgive (and probably should for her own mental health) but it's next to impossible to fo

I have just about always gotten a flu shot. I know I didn't in 1991 or so. I got the flu, as did my husband. Our poor daughter had to look after herself and us. She must have been 10 or 11. I got the flu shot last year. My husband didn't. He got the flu. I didn't. I did have bronchitis pretty bad but likely would have been a lot worse had I not gotten the flu shot. I'm a pulmonary embolism survivor. I've been told bronchitis, pneumonia and the flu can be much worse on me than someone who did not have a PE. I'll do whatever is necessary to prevent getting sick. Honestl

My husband was in pain management at Emory Pain Clinic back in the late 1970s and early 1980s. They did more than throw narcotic prescriptions at the patient. They taught biofeedback, relaxation techniques, used nerve blocks and old fashioned low dose anti-depressants. He actually did better there than at the two pain clinics, the first in Smyrna and the other in Marietta (though they had a Hiram office as well). At least FINALLY before he stopped going to the clinic they were beginning to suggest other methods of pain relief. Of course, it will still increasing the dosage of the hydrocod

I second that statement about the sleep apnea surgery. I didn't have that particular surgery but one I had was very similar--more of a cross between a tonsillectomy and that--which involved removing a tumor from my soft palate. Basically laid open the left side of the roof of my mouth. I think I took pain meds once or twice. I'd gone through withdrawal with my previous surgery, just a year earlier, so I wanted to minimize the chance of that. I've been fortunate in that with my four surgeries since 2014 I have never had a problem getting pain meds. In fact, I've had to refuse them, b

It's my understanding that with most Florida Blue plans there is inpatient (and outpatient) mental health treatment so in theory at least, yes, they will pay for treatment of addiction.

She was taking it for nerve pain after a 4 level cervical fusion and the implant of a spinal cord stimulator. It wasn't the first drug she was on for the pain, and the surgery was a last ditch effort to save the use of her body, particularly the upper extremities. BUT she was worse in some ways after the surgery than before. She did retain the use of her upper extremities but it came at a high cost. Still, I guess the price she has paid, and I'm sure continues to pay, is better than being a quadriplegic. The gabapentin sure zoned her out. It freaked me out to think that it would mess her

I worked with a woman who took that. She would wait until she got to work to take it. I could tell that she had. I feared for her safety, and that of others, on her way home each afternoon. Thankfully she finally decided to stop working, even though it broke her heart to do that. I don't know that our employer recommended that she quit working if she kept taking the gabapentin but I suspect he may have. She was barely able to function. The heartbreaking thing to me was her age. She was only 39 when she had to retire due to disability. So much of her life ahead of her and so little of

Hmmm. I'm getting a subsidy of over $1000 a month to help pay for my health insurance. I can remember when my husband got coverage for me and our three kids and himself and it didn't cost as much as mine is now, with the subsidy! Affordable? Hardly.

Did some of us say this would happen? Pretty sure we did. Kind of like the adage of "he who has the gold makes the rules" except in this case it's "he who gets the gold makes the rules". My insurance premium went up 350% over last year. 350% and I'm pretty sure that's going to be more than,...... what was it the ACA was supposed to set as a cap, 8% of your income. My income didn't go up 350%. Our household income didn't go up 350%. Even our taxes didn't go up 350%. But MY insurance did (hubby has been on Medicare for several years now and has never had to deal with ACA insurance).

I celebrate when the little munchkins stop coming to the door. LOL I think we had all totaled 12 trick or treaters, about 6 groups.

Happy Halloween, y'all. Whatever night it is.

My premium for 2018 will go up 350%. Same plan, too. But they are changing co-pays as well. $25 lab co-pay and I have them at least every three months and was planning to go to every other month next year. Maybe not though. $25 co-pay for my specialists now vs $15. I see three specialists and two of them pretty much every three months.

I saw something on a local group the reason I decided to post. Made me miss the days of the "what night is trick or treating" here on Pcom.

is Halloween and trick or treating this year?