Mama Carol

I’ve thought long and hard about this reply. I’m trying to be as subjective as possible. How do you “get over” someone raping your child? You don't. How you “let go” of the feelings of betrayal, failure and anger? You can't. How do you deal with knowing that at least three people, adults at that, knew what was happening and none thought it was important enough to stop much less prevent from happening again? Again, you can't. How do you move on when you’re treated as though you’re the bad guy when you did NOTHING wrong? You don't. How do you deal with losing your family

It was eating me alive. My mother in law was haunting me in my dreams. I finally realized that for my sanity I had to forgive her. I did. Ain't never gonna forget though. I might have forgotten my old phone number, might have forgotten the name of the cute paramedic I used to like but having someone destroy your family isn't something you forget. You can forgive. For yourself and yourself only. It does not excuse the action and it does not absolve the guilty.

I forgave her a few years ago. I will never forget though. I no longer want to kill her with my bare hands. I have two grandsons who wouldn't know me if they passed me in Walmart (and this actually happened). Our oldest daughter won't have anything to do with us because she believed that if her grandmothers and biological mother knew about the molestation that we did as well. We had NO clue. We have nothing to do with my mother in law. She has called all three of our daughters liars and claims that she knew nothing. Initially even my sister in law said that her mom knew abo

For those doubters about long term complications of molestation and sexual abuse among females, this might be of interest. http://www.2womenshealth.com/05-Children-and-Adolescence/Childhood-Sexual-Abuse-Gynaeecological-Conditions.htm from the text: Springs and Friedrich investigated 511 women from a family practice in Midwestern USA. Women who had been sexually abused formed 22% of the sample and had more pelvic inflammatory disease, yeast infections and pregnancy complications than women who had not been abused. There was a relationship between severity of abuse and number of gyna

Actually the correlation was told to both daughters who had surgery for endometriosis. Both said their doctors asked them if they had been molested as children. They had different doctors in different cities. Yep. And all three of her granddaughters. And one or more of her daughter's friends. Unclear if she witnessed the neighbor kids being molested or not. FIL was punished by a horribly painful death (aortic aneurysm) and MIL is being punished by a debilitating disorder in her older years. Oddly enough, her caretaker is her only daughter.

My mother in law didn't seem to have a problem with it.

It's a life sentence for the entire family and really future generations. There is a strong link between molestation of young girls and endometriosis. Endometriosis sufferers tend to have more difficult times getting pregnant and carrying a pregnancy to term. Two of my three daughters have had surgery for endometriosis and they have also had difficulty carrying pregnancies to term or difficulty during pregnancy that did go to term. My other daughter likely has endometriosis as well and had two premature babies.

If the grand jury returns an indictment against him, something is HORRIBLY wrong with the system.

And the Christian church I attended kept preaching "God forgives" while they held things against you. God might forgive but they certainly won't. Fine to elect an officer who has unruly/trampy daughters but not a Godly man who has been married to his second wife for 25 years. Fine to have a preacher who has a stepson but not to have an organist whose daughter had a child out of wedlock 20 years ago. Fine to preach tolerance but turn your back on church members who happen to have mixed race grandchildren. OK, back to the regularly scheduled rant.

Me, too!! It's been soooooooooooo long.

Same thing. Milton is east Pace and Pace is west Milton. Pace is a slightly nicer area than most of Milton though Milton has some really nice houses down around Avalon Blvd. Pace has most of the shopping--Walmart, Lowe's, Home Depot--and most of the restaurants. We have looked in Pace and haven't really found anything we like except north of Pace going toward Chumuckla. Then we get away from that whole "want to be closer to town" thing. We WANT to be closer to downtown Milton and the hospital and doctors (hubby is 61 and has back problems, I'm 57 and am looking at a knee replacement

Yep, we realize their market is hot. It's a shame that ours isn't. Don't know about the increased flights or highways but we have seen widening and improvements in some of the feeder roads through Milton and then to the beach. Thanks for the link!! I'll check it out.

Hey now!! I thought you were saving one of those for ME!! Anyway, I don't need it now. I DO need another laptop. Don't care if it's got the numeric keypad or not. I can buy one of those if I see I need it. I'll be by on Friday and I'll again be better than the cable guy.

That's another thing! I feel like I'm doing all the work. Most of the properties we have looked at I found through realtor.com. We were already comfortable enough with them to make an offer before we set foot in them. In fact, the next house we have plans to see we already know that if it's at all like it appears, we WILL make an offer. No doubt. But I've done all the work. I've research permits, taxes, neighborhood, EVERYTHING. We have even looked at it on satellite. We feel like if our agent was working for us, she would only send us things that we were interested in. I have a ton

That's kind of my thought on it, too. Maybe someone who HAS to support themselves. Not someone who takes off every other month for a week long motorcycle ride. To their mountain cabins. Some of them might be. The ones we have bid on and lost out to others have not. Well, maybe that one last fall bought by the people who live in the half million dollar house the next town over but otherwise, they are owner-occupied.

What we have done is this: At least 10% in earnest money (often we've gone to 20%). Closing date in 30 days. 72 hours for acceptance, except banks of course and short sales (we have only made an offer on one short sale). Usual inspections, survey and title insurance. We're pretty sure it's not the terms that are the problem because we've used standard terms. It's the fact that we tend to try to buy slow moving properties that suddenly become hot. On house #5, we had already gone back and forth with offers for over two weeks when someone swooped in with a slightly higher offer that

Jeff does have a great singing voice,.

It's very emotionally stressful. It's also rather financially stressful. I put a lot of work in trying to get house #3 and #5. We put a lot of emotion into house #1. #2 was over so quickly it wasn't painful. #4 was more than fine with me because I wasn't crazy about the house but I did put a lot of work into trying to get it. There is also the financial stress. It costs us on average $700 a trip to look at houses. That right there is $3500! Plus we made three trips to look at house #3 and two or three to look at #5. And it ties up our money when it's down in Florida in some realt

We feel the reasons we didn't get three of the five houses is the agent. Not necessarily that she did not do something she should have but rather that she did something she shouldn't have. Shared information about what we were offering. On house #4, we were in negotiations with Fannie Mae when out of nowhere, literally, someone came up and made a higher than asking price offer. Surprised even the listing agent! The house didn't even have a sign out front. This one was very suspicious to me. It was someone local who lives in a half million dollar house. Believe me, the house we both

We have been dealing with our current agent for TWO YEARS and after five attempts to buy a house, we still do not have a house. So, we've decided to change our approach to this. But how?? We're limited in what we have to spend as we cannot finance. We are pretty sure our problem is NOT having the cash to buy, as there have been numerous houses we have looked at and three we have made offers on that have sold for about what we offered. We have been dealing with a middle age woman. We have a lot of things in common with her and have a good rapport. But we have begun to think she isn'

There has already been an arrest in the BOA robbery from the other day. This must be something else. Maybe the Texaco got hit again.

I'd hate to see someone I love go through it, too. However, it would still be none of my business. I have a very dear, wonderful, close friend who is going through a separation right now and I take time to listen to her. However, what she OR ANYONE ELSE does in their marriage isn't my business. I don't want anyone second guessing mine. I'm not saying what you're asking is wrong. I just think it's for them to work out. I do stand by my statement about if someone gave up their 20 year marriage for a CHURCH, they didn't have much of a marriage. I hope the couple you're t

If your spouse chooses a CHURCH over you, you didn't have much of a marriage. And I'd be out of there so fast they would think a hurricane just hit. If it's not YOUR marriage, it's none of your business. Sorry.

Several people have stated that Paulding does NOT have a morgue. I honestly thought every *hospital* had a morgue. Granted, the only one I know about firsthand is the one at Cobb (and only because I got lost).

I don't have a dog in this fight. However, as a business person it just seems to be a bad idea for the community for the coroner to also provide the ambulance service to the community AND operate a funeral home. I have met Jeff Eberhart and Sam Clark and know Dennis Bellamy (who is NOT running for coroner). All are fine men and superb morticians. I don't know Jamie Benson and have never met him. His is the only funeral home in three counties that I have not been in. I can't say a bad thing about either of the two running for office. However, like I said, it just seems to be a ba