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In case anyone else was curious about this...Paulding county does not have a search and rescue team. The sheriff and fire departments team up and if needed, call in help from the state. That was the answer I got this morning. I am interested in starting a search and rescue team for this area and am going to meet with someone to see what it would take to get something like this for our area....or am I the only one that feels as though this would be an asset to our county?
I think it would be a great thing.
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I can only think of one......
I REALLY need a nap.
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My daughter loved her bumbo. She is 18 months old and still sits in it.
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Her parents disagree, they know she needs more help than a peds dr. Her parents trust the advise of doctors that I receommend to them since I know the system just a little bit, just I deal with boys and anger issues not girls and eating problems
Weird, my doctor had to do a referral for specialist. If they trust your say so more than they do the doctor, then I don't think you need any advice. Seems like you have all their concerns under control.
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I think you should be asking someone professional or better yet let her parents do it.
I'm sorry, but I wouldn't want someone to come on a message board and ask questions like this pertaining to my child. I know your not putting out information to whom this child is or her parents, but I still don't think its right. IMO.
I agree. If her ped. has given her the DX of ADD, then I am sure he can refer her parents in the right direction.
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Well said, my daughter is a brilliant example of what a child can be if aloud to. 
The way I see it you can either let it run your life, or you can run it. I have never taken anything laying down. If you tell me something can't be done, I will prove you wrong, or die trying to. These kids will grow up and they will NEED to be able to function in the real world. If you allow them to pity themselves, and use it as a crutch, they will NEVER get past it. Things can be overcome, it just takes time, patience, love, and determination. I really think people who don't try .. are just lazy and looking for an easy way out .. but that's my opinion. 
ADHD and ADD are no where close to autism.
Myboys is actually hillarous on this subject. The search functtion on here is a great feature. Today must be a high day for her.
You seem a bit confused. You are not talking to a small child here. I am a grown woman who is very outspoken, and lest being thrown off this site permanently would certainly speak my mind to you in a less civil manner! However, as stated, been there, done that regarding helping my child. Tried to have that teacher fired. Don't work in this county. Go ahead and sue the system if you can afford an attorney worth their salt that knows anything about our beloved "system" and charges $400.00 or more an hour. And while you're at it, why don't you check out the state BOE website and see how many parents win those fights. If I homeschool my son, that will certainly make his anti-social behavior problems go away, huh? Never once did I mention that my child had "meltdowns," so you obviously have a little further to go with your child's behavior that I have with mine. He no longer has "meltdowns," although he does have anxiety. Don't ever assume that I have not fought for my child 100% and will continue to do so. You are over the top. I have never "settled" for anything and I rarely call autism his disability, only with those who don't understand it any other way. My son has seen 4 therapists, all of whom have known little or nothing about autism, but as stated in a previous post our insurance does not cover autism. Obviously, I am not Jenny McCarthy and cannot afford the luxury of having the finest autism specialists see my son or hiring a high-priced attorney to sue the school. Bullying is more of his reality but I never sit idly by and let it continue, although my son was unable to tell me these things until the 5th grade, so it made it pretty difficult to know what was taking place out of my presence. I am continually in the search for an excellent behaviorist/therapist, but that is none of your business and didn't feel the need to discuss that with you. And don't ever "challenge" me to spend 1 week trying to help my son when I have fought for him and helped him every step of the way for 13 years! AND furthermore...I don't refer to my child as abnormal - although I see that you continue to state that you are trying to find a way for your child to "as normal as possible!" As stated, he is simply different. That makes him unique but certainly not an abnormality like he has 2 heads or something. Obstacles to overcome, you bet, but I can't seem to make you understand, I've got this and don't need your infinite intelligence Oh Wise One. I rarely post on P.com either but felt passionately about this particular subject and merely weighed in. I wasn't looking for a LIFE COACH to teach me the ways of the world! BTW, have you found that therapist you were looking for?
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I forgot my boquet. (sp?) And I forgot to spit out my gum.
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And my response to this if the school system is interfering in you teaching your child remove the child, if the teacher washers her/his hand of your child have her/hi fired for not doing their job. If kids are humiliating your child it is bullying and there is an anti-bullying zero tolerance on that with sports have the other kids kicked off. If that does not work bring civil charges against the parents of the bullies.
If I want to spend a whole day following my child around like a little puppy it is my child and I have every right to do so and if someone steps in my I will use what ever resources are available to me to get my way with my child, it is my right and responsibility.
If your child is not getting asked out to do things you invite others to come play with him or go our to a movie with him. You make the moves your child can not make from themselves. If society pushes your child down you as the parent push society back and don't take it.
You as the parent (and this is to all parents not just you) make things work for your child if they are unable to make things work for themselves
Like I said, you have "lots to learn" about the school district.
Gingi you are a GREAT mom.....don't let ANYONE tell you different! Yes I have seen Gingi in action. Not only is she a great mother, I have never once heard her say "This is not the life I choose or wanted". She embraces her responsibilty everyday, and her son has a great home life..... with 2 great parents who work together!
And I equally wish that people like you would pull your head out of your butt long enough to realize that what might work well for one child might not work for another. Furthermore to assume that parents of children with autism are holding their child back and not able to see past their childs disability is the mother of all _________-ups.I agree 100%!!
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Since the vaccination topic seems to be moving in this direction, I will just begin a new thread.
I assure you my son is not held back by our family in any way. He was not diagnosed until the age of 10. He was made to participate in every activity just like his older siblings. He participated in sports (t-ball and soccer) until the other kids surpassed him in their progress and began making fun of him. He asked to quit. He was so humilated by the negative comments on the field that we allowed him to no longer participate. He was made to behave just like his siblings in every public setting. He was never given an excuse to behave badly nor does he have bad behavior, just different. He attends "regular" school and has no special classes. I see his potential and try to tap into that every day; however, that arena may one day fail your child too. You will not be allowed to go to school with your child. Not even for a teaching/learning experience. There is a rule in place in Paulding that says you can be in that setting for 30 minutes a day. Wonder how I know? And there may come a time when it won't just be the kids that humiliate your child, but the adults as well. You are blessed to have the teachers you mention because there may come a day when a teachers says to you just what was said to me, "I wash my hands of your child, I can do nothing more to help him" or this one, "You know, your son is very odd." And on and on I could go. I haven't even touched the surface of it. I do not make excuses. I try to improve his everyday world.
I could write a book on the ways that "society" has held my son back, all because he is "different" from others as I'm sure your parents could raising your brother. But no, I do not hold my child back. He says affirmations every day to improve his self-esteem. I encourage him to go outside daily to play if it is nice. I tell him every morning to make 2 new friends before he comes home from school and he tells me every day 2 new people he has tried to talk to. He knows that he is expected to go to college. I hold a vision for his sucessful future daily and pray like a madwoman for him. Again, I could go on and on. None of this, so far, has changed the reality of his daily life. He still does not have anything more than fleeting friendships. That is his reality. He still does not get invited to parties or movies or get togethers. That is his reality. I did not say he would never marry, I said he may not. That is his reality. I did not say he would never have children, I said he may not. That is his reality. I did not say he would never move away from home, I said he may not. That is our reality.
I was not seeking sympathy in my earlier post just stating facts for those that believe the "labels" our kids have are something we display on a bumper sticker for attention. I would much rather our attention-seeking label looked something like this: I'm a great kid! I'm handsome! I'm so funny! I'm the kindest soul you will ever meet! I'm really intelligent! AND I'm a great artist!
So, for all your boundless knowledge regarding how I or others like me should raise our children or what you would do, believe me, we have been there, done that before you sweetie. I will be praying that none of the things that have happened to my son ever happen to your child and that you are never in a position to be saddened, heartbroken, or exhausted by it all.
I am telling you, WRITE THAT BOOK! You are awesome!
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I just wish we could steer the conversation back on track.
Maybe the mods can split the topic.
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To be very honest if my son's future required me to follow him around like a little puppy at school I would. If me being there to teach him how to handle a situation would work I would. That is my job. He does not know the social cues and everything has to be taught to him good and bad. I am lucky that he has good teachers that explain everything to him.
So If a life situation arose in his life that required me to be there to teach him how to react I would drop everything to do just that. He is my first job and I don't take light to it. The first things these kids have to learn is self esteem and then they have to learn who to trust. Austistic kids can learn to me it is there parents who thing it would be bad for them to learn.
So, basically you will follow him around school to be his "LIFE COACH"?
He might have great teachers now in K, but give it til around 3rd grade. And then there is puberty
. Are you capable of handling that? Oh yeah I forgot you are going to follow him around and teach him.....cause YOU are the only one on the planet who teaches her kid. -
AND it is the parents job to make sure their child has the best possible relationship at school or friends that kid can have,even if it is one or two kdis in a similar situation. I can just telll you that my brother never had any "special" firends only normal ones and until his late 20's he only dealt with normal people it was his choice to get involved in special olympics and othe "special" activities.
Even at 5 kids are mean and it is how the parent reacts to those situations that can determine how the child will also handle the same situation.
I am not living in a dream world either but my son has no other opition but to excel. He can be as oppisitonal and have as many meltdowns at home as he wishes but the moment he steps outside he knows it is not allowed or we will just come back home. There are many times when we don't leave the house because of a meltdown and it takes all of his might to get through a school day but he does it and his disability is no excuess for bad behavior I don't care that he has ODD or Asperger's in public he must act like everyone else
LMAO.....Oh my goodness, how are they suppose to do that? REALLY? Come on? Should they go to school everyday with their child?
For exapmle.....my son saw a child getting his books knocked out of his, my son bucks up at the bully runs him off......he helps the child who crying pick up his things, the entire time the child is begging for him not to tell anyone. I guess if his MOTHER had followed him to school that day, bullying would not happen. The mother can soothe the him and talk to him about it, but she can't be with him every second of every day.
Wow, you have a long hard road ahead of you with that attitude.
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The way I am seeing is that most parents with children on the Autism spectrum need someone/something to blame for a genetic disorder. I personally think that we now have to tools to diagnosis something that was difficult to diagnosis 20 years ago, that is the reason for the increase in cases not the vaccines.
I also see that most (NOT ALL) parents of children on the spectrum are holding there child back, just like parents of mentally disabled children did 20 years ago.
Why can't an Autistic child get married, have a job, move out, have friends. If you teach you child the skills to cope and manage this problem then they can function.
From personal experience I see this happening everyday. My brother who is mentally handicapped holds a full time job, have a better social life than I do, has more money in his account and has more freedom than most married couples have. He does still live with my parents not because he wants to but because they are not comfortable letting him move out.
I have a five year old with Asperger's and ODD who goes to a regular school and a regular kindergarten class. He has friends and when he is invited I make him go even if it is the most uncomfortable thing for me to do. He will grow up will he go to college I don't know, will he move out YES get a job YES
The Autism spectrum is no more a means for children to be held back and forced to live a children their who life than Down Syndrome is. The kids have the right to grow up and mature and the parents need to stop holding them back. To me while Autism exist just like ADD/ADHD it is more of an excuse to hold a child back and not allow them to grow into their full potential
Your son is 5, children are more accepting at that age. Come back in 5-10 years and see if there is a difference with friends, girlfriends, etc.
I personally know some of the families who have posted in this thread, they do not hold their children back......they are not living in a dream world, this is their life day after day. With age children become down right mean, and alot of the times children with disabilities do not fit in.
As a parents they can grieve, get angry, or cry. They deserve that much, without someone telling them it's all their fault.
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I find it more unfortunate than awful.
Unfortunately, it seems that America has become a country where people feel the need to fit into some group or another, even if it means labeling their kids with something they may or may not have. These things come in phases, too.
Years ago ADD and ADHD were all the rage, not so much now.
It seems like Autism is the flavor of the month. So much that we have a wide ranging group of symptoms fall under the "autism umbrella". There's only one way I look at it, a kid is either autistic, or they're not.
I'll use fibromyalgia as another example. I bet you that you can poll 100 doctors about it and 90 of them will say it does not exist, yet we have a whole segment of our society that swear by it.
I would guess you have never spent any time with a child with autism. The flavor of the month continues to affect more and more children everyday!! Autism is not just a phase, unless you have found a cure, children will still be DX with it for years to come.
You are speaking of labels, well everyone wears a label......CEO, black, white, hispanic, obese, white collar, blue collar, Autistic, etc.
I have no one in my family that has autism, but have had the pleasure to work and be friends with several children and parents. I say you should spend one day being around a child with autism. AMAZING! My life will forever be changed from the 2 years I spent working in the autism class with the school district. And when I return to work it will be working with children with disabilities. Honestly, try to become more informed before you pass judgement that is DOES NOT exist.
Folks let's keep this topic civil pleaseOH SNAP! Don't shoot me, I posted before I saw this..........
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The final dose of HIB is given at 12 to 18 months per CDC Guidelines. My great niece had 2 doses of Comvax but not the final dose, so her protection was not complete. The 3 year old had no vaccinations and was the carrier of the strain that KILLED her and sickened 2 other children. That to me is manslaughter. What would you call it if another person's bad decision lead to the death of child?
I am truly sorry for your loss, and I can see why you are passionate about this.
Many parents have carried the lifeless body of their children into the ER after shots. Some children made it, with severe disabilities, some children DIED! What do you call that?
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Read the post. My grand niece was TOO YOUNG for the vaccine. She had her life to loose to the unvaccinated child who was well beyond the recommended age.
edited to add: I really don't care what your delusions are about vaccination. to me if the odds of dying from the vaccine are less than 1 in 1 million, and the odds of dying from the disease are 1 in 50,000, then I would go with the 1 in 1 million. To not vaccinate your child is tantamount to child abuse, JMHO. In my case it was tantamount to manslaughter.
HIB is given at 2,4,6 months. My child does not take DTP. How dare you say I abuse my child because I will not lose her to a DTP shot. Manslaughter....have you lost your mind?
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Or to be able to put a bumper sticker on the parent's car. That's an awful thing to say.
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I personally believe that Vaccines DO NOT cause Austism. There is and never has been any direct link to Austism from Vaccines.
Now am I little nervous about the fact in 2 months my 13 month old will get the shot that might cause problems, Hell yeah considering I have a child with Asperger's. I will have a detailed conversation with my dr about this. Will the baby get the shot most likely yes as his make up is not quite the same as my oldest.
I think that most of the parents (NOT ALL) need someone, something to blame when this horrible thing happens. I cried the day I found out about the Asperger's dx but at no point did I play the blame game all I wanted to do is fix it.
I also think it is irresponsible to not vaccinate your child, you can do the vaccines slower, give them one at a time instead of the combo, but I disagree with not doing it at all
Didn't a family just win a settlement, in which they agreed vaccines did cause her autism? I thought this happened this past year. I can't remember alot of the details.
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Have they had plastic surgery, want to apparently look like Angelina Jolie, still live with their Mother, can't speak coherently, have their nails done while they can't afford to feed the 6 kids they currently have while submitting themselves to 8 more and are asking for assistance on the internet as well as expecting public assistance? If so, maybe they should go on national TV too. If she didn't want to be under the microscope she could have just refused to speak to the press, that simple. Slam your door in their face if they show up on your doorstep, period. It's not like she's being followed around by the paparrazi (sp?).
Let me try and explain:
Have you been in the grocery store behind a women who is in designer clothes and shoes....then pays for her groceries with WIC? Yes her nails are done, she has highlights in her hair and proceeds to get into her BMV.
Or have to listen to how great my kids and family are.....we are so perfect we can not afford health insurance for our children.....so we have PEACHCARE. But my husband provides for the family.
My personal favorite.....I meet a lady in the parking lot of my OBGYN, ofcourse she has 5 children under the age of 6....and is driving a navigator. I am standing behind her at the desk, she is asked for an insurance card and pulls out a HANDFUL of PEACHCARE cards. Yeah I should proably compliment her on her nails and kickass outfit, but instead I just shake my head.
This is what I am talking about.....there is NO difference in the people who abuse the system. NONE!
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Well then my sister should be getting help she has one with severe ADD and another with ADHD, but guess what she WORKS as does her husband.
This lady makes me sick. I feel bad for these 14 kids. I have no problems with big families but this story is crazy
Like I said earlier, she is NO worse than ALL the others abusing the system. She is just having her entire life put out there. Not everyone's life has been put under a microscope, but I do have to admit there are a couple of "high and mighty" people I would like an explanation from.
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I would like to know how you get SS disability for a minor speech problems and "tiny" austistic characteristics.
I mean I have a "disabled" and I don't get ss disability and I am sure his problems are more severe than hers.
She is abusing the system really bad
She gets money for one with ADHD too.
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This whole thing is getting crazier..
I still say she needs her A$$ kicked
Maybe it's time to take another look at the welfare system....She is not the only person abusing it! I see abuse of peachcare, wic, foodstamps, disability, and etc. everyday. I even see it on this site.
I try not to become bitter about having to pay for other people's children, but it seems "these" people are starting to expect it. It blows my mind people can use their children to maniuplate money from "good-hearted" people.
Yes she needs her a$$ kicked, but the babies need support.
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If she is trying to hurt the baby, maybe someone at the other house is allowed to hurt her. I would take her to your ped. and have them give her a complete look over. Something is just not adding up. I hope things work out for you.