From experience, we have three children we fostered and adopted. I have found that birth parents tend to need to talk about what they are "doing" to get better so they can get their children back. They also like to cause a bunch of "hoohaa" (our word for other explicatives) because they really are doing nothing to get their children back it just makes them feel better to talk about it to everyone and create chaos. My best suggestion is to separate as much as you can from any and all family in this matter. I have always said that relative foster/adoptions would be very difficult. I will pr