Ummm...because you don't message another woman's husband like that? I mean, I'm one of her closest friends, and I'd only message him at that time if I was in a dire emergency. Just not cool.
It's been a couple of days. He wants to do dinner. I'm cautious--probably overly so--because of past crazy. (Copschick can testify to most of them.) I'm really not into head games, but I thought I'd get some opinions from the peanut gallery to gauge the norm.