I never realized how influential my father was in my life. I mean yes he helped give me life. His views helped shaped me, his leaving really gave me a very strong foundation of what I wouldn't do to my marriage and my kids but I'm talking about just his demeanor when I was growing up. I don't want to say my father was abusive - because he wasn't, he was just stearn and hot tempered. When my fathered encountered a problem it became everyone's problem and everyone was to blame. If he scraped his
