I just hate reading old threads like this because all I hear is a bunch of hate for mamas. And I wonder how many had actual issues as my ex would say all those kind of things about me but none of them were true(they were projections from his wife) they had zero evidence against me but had shown the kids nothing but hatred for me for so many years that once they became unruly teens, (with 2 girls over 14, sister went to not split them and she was only 10), they just promised a party life and like their baby sister says, "they left us like last weeks shoe sale",(I have no idea where she got that, she is a very creative writer). I never in a million years would have thought they would have handed my kids to the most unstable couple I have ever known in my life, removing them from a stabile loving, education promoting household and allowing them to be a part of a 9 member household in a 3 bedroom rental house where my 14 year old was frequently used as a babysitter for her dads 90 year old grandmother, requiring her to change her diapers. I could not get them to change a baby diaper, or their dad for that matter, but a 200 lb. geriatric, and suddenly she is game? But anyways, MJF, I wish my kids step mom would have been like you. As far as your knowledge of alienation and its affects on the child, you sound like you would have been an asset. The woman I was stuck with did everything she could to make my kids hate me. I was very accommodating, I have always been a people pleaser. To hear her talk you would hear her describe herself with every word she claims about me. The woman was a bartender at Hiram Station for years and then again for years, later on. Of course most of her time was spent harassing me, while I was working my ass off for 9 years, but she never tried to get a real job to where they would not be too strapped to pay child support(I never turned him in for) she waits until after they steal my kids for both of them to finally get real jobs, of course after they got their default and a ridiculously large award of child support, then they go making all kinds of money and collecting life insurance on the grandma and she got my daughter wasted on moonshine and the first I hear her voice in 3 years and she is threatening me with jail time and saying they will never want to see me again if I don't get a job and pay child support. The stepmom was in her ear. She kinda made that obvious by texting my phone simultaneously while talking to me on my boyfriend's phone. But my daughter told me later. The woman is severely mentally I'll from PTSD, as they met in Iraq when we were still married and he got her pregnant. I hate this life. I don't trust our government. I am terrified to leave the house because of how horribly unjustified this entire ordeal continues to be. I am the innocent victim in all of their crazy hateful drama and I never had a say. It doesn't take an expert on parental alienation to see what my ex and his wife did, but they didn't care, it was all about money, and now my kids dropped out and started making babies, got charter school diplomas which lost them the memories that they would have cherished from high school. They never let my girls even mention seeing me without biting their heads off telling them it would waste the money they spent on the attorney. Which they were awarded lawyers fees so it was nothing and he used them to save thousands of dollars and commit welfare fraud, and my girls still dont see what happened. I don't think we will ever see them again. He is in the middle of secretly moving them up to Michigan, and this will be their second unannounced move, first was to Carroll county. But I only have one 17 year old left with him and they are gonna make me pay this hideous man that caused me to lose everything I struggled to gain for my kids, for the rest of my life it seems. Even with 2 being years out of his household. It has been 6.5 years and they are all I think about every waking moment and the few I finally sleep, it is so horrible living without them, I feel like I will never again be happy. My heart goes out to every mama separated from her babies, and I hope none of the ones on here are separated because of selfishness and control of their kids' father and his wife. Pray for my family and for my kids to see one day, even with only their toxic influence. It all makes me so sick. I just loved being their mommy. That never should have been taken from me. I will never see our justice system the way I once did. I was raised in a good christian family, I had no idea about divorce or court, neither did my folks. But I did everything like anyone else did and they really manipulated the entire thing, between mean attorneys and their absolutely atrocious satanic attorney that could not have been more misogynistic as a female attorney. The amount of evidence I have against them while they just have lies that they create with zero evidence, but I could go on all day, I just had to say something for those who have lost their voice.
If I can even still comment on this old thread.
And adam&Jessica I am sorry for what she put you through and your son. It seems there is always an aggressor who will take advantage of how you love your children every chance they get. It is very painful feeling like you are partially to blame for ever trusting someone who can not grow up and put your kids first. Parenting just doesn't affect everyone profoundly like you think it would. And the kids suffer. When we got divorced was before the parenting class was required. They should require they pass that class before changes in custody for parents with old divorces, steps too. I just had this misconception that my ex would have matured and grown a parent but I forgot that the man i knew never came home from iraq.