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My grand kids say yes ma'am, yes sir (to the point where it used to almost be annoying) and they say sucks. BUT, they never say it with a bad attitude. When I hear them say it they are laughing. These kids are honor roll students that already have their career goals set in the medical field. I really don't see a problem with it as long as they are respectful to others and are using the word the way they use it.

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My grand kids say yes ma'am, yes sir (to the point where it used to almost be annoying) and they say sucks. BUT, they never say it with a bad attitude. When I hear them say it they are laughing. These kids are honor roll students that already have their career goals set in medical field. I really don't see a problem with it as long as they are respectful to others and are using the word the way they use it.

 

How old are they/were they when it became a part of their vernacular?

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How old are they/were they when it became a part of their vernacular?

 

They are 14 thru 11 now. Honestly, I never really paid that much attention the first time I heard them say it. That's their mom's favorite word so I'm surprised it wasn't the kid's first word.

 

I'm just not all that legalistic when it comes to things like this. If the kid is excelling in school, being as respectful to others as they are and not using vulgarity, I am not about to start beating on them about using that word.

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That's not one of the words I use. So, no, that's not one of the words they picked up. LMBO!!!

 

Honestly, my kids didn't use foul language when they were little, they basically waited until middle school and they did it when I wasn't around. All words were basically picked up by me!!! My son is the sneaky one, my daughter, not so much, she just comes right out and says them. No hiding from her. She is now 16. No one to blame but myself.

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Funny you say that because all I could hear at Target today was some kid, saying everything under the sun sucks! I wanted to wash his mouth out with soap!

 

The kids I am talking about, you would never hear them in a store. I know I am somewhat biased, but every time I am around them I come away impressed.

 

I think the word is not the issue. It is only a word. The issue is the attitude of the kid using it.

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The kids I am talking about, you would never hear them in a store. I know I am somewhat biased, but every time I am around them I come away impressed.

 

I think the word is not the issue. It is only a word. The issue is the attitude of the kid using it.

 

Agreed! I would rather hear a kid saying that in a "well dang" kind of way than some of these kids who may not say the words but their crappy ass attitude says it for them... Parents worry a lot about the words and not so much the attitude in general of the kid. I will take that sucks over attitude any day!

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I don't like it, never have, the 4 of them wore me down. I don't think the girls hardly ever used it. My son on the other hand, his favorite word, he say that sucks before you can even finish the sentence. I'm telling you they have a way of wearing you down.

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Mine popped off with it once, about two years ago.

I doubt she'll ever use it again. mellow.gif

 

Ironically, she says 'Dammit' from time to time and I've never done much more than give her the mommy side-glare. She always does it at times I would have said it as well, like...when her brother bites her, or when she drops a stack of books on her foot, etc. And she always looks panicked once she's said it. pardon.gif

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No, I don't want mine to use it. And if course I don't use it either. I am weird about certain words and that's one of them. Don't like the alternate word for urinate either. Or shut up, or stupid, or hate. But I'll let loose with a flying f-word occasionally, as well as a few other standard swear words. Go figure. blush.gif

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The more I think about it, I don't see what the problem is if someone says "This sucks, or That sucks"! What's the big deal. They could say worse. I wouldn't expect a child from elementary or middle to say it tho.

 

My issue with it (and all four letter words) is that there are about 5 million other, more intelligent sounding ways she could have expressed the same thing. So, when she tries to pop off with something of the sort (though, 'sucks' is officially out of her vocabulary), we play a game to see how else she could say it and who can come up with the best sounding re-worded phrase.

 

But...looky my signatures. blush.gif I'm trying to raise an adult, though I wonder sometimes how well I am doing. When she's 18 and dealing with things in the real world, I hope she can come up with something better than 'This sucks' when she's stuck in a less-than-stellar situation.

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What about teenagers and swearing? Our 16, about to be 17yo, has started using sheeze, damn, hell, etc. over the last several months. He's dropped the f-bomb once on me, just the other night when we were watching a Bulls game and something bad happened. He doesn't swear around his siblings (atleast not when his parents are around). He's a damn good kid and, because of that, I've found that I'm really not bothered by it. If he acts like a young adult, which he does, he should have some of the minor privileges that come with being an adult, imo.

 

On the other hand, had I used that language around my parents at 16, I would have gotten my ass kicked. Oddly enough, my younger brother and sister did swear in front of my parents at that age.

 

 

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Yes...our 'kids' are 30, 28. 27. 26 and right at 24 :).

Mine were able to use the word (and others) late teens (17 & 18) without getting into trouble.

They do have extraordinarily large vocabularies but there are times when nothing seems to suit the situation as well as a bit of 'suckage' ;).

I think my 5 1/2 year old grandson has used it on occasion, but that's only because he hears his parents use it. He generally chooses other words as well.

 

I agree with the 'pick your battles' sentiment.

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Well that sucks.

 

I don't see the problem with it. I say it all the time if it fits the moment. Been doing it for years never seen an issue with it.

 

Sure I have heard my 11 year old say it also and never thought anything about it. I still don't see any problem with it.

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If that's the worse thing that comes out of Jr's mouth when he's that age I will consider it a blessing. Maybe it's because I'm a trucking yanke and we curse like god damn sailors but I fail to see what the big trucking deal is. :rofl:

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No way does my 13 yr old say it. Her mouth would be washed out with soap more than once.

 

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How's the new vacuum cleaner? "It sucks". Soap time?

 

That's a neat fish in he tank, what kind is it? "It's a hypostomus, it sucks." Soap time?

 

This thread sucks harder than a Swedish porn star.

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I remember the first time I said that someone was " Screwed " got me a whack on the back side. It's hard to keep up with what words mean these day's what was dirty in the day could be a compliment today. Something that's BAD today is really good. Something that's SICK is actually really cool and TRICKED OUT is a good thing. Spam is not necessarily something you eat, and someone that's Fishing may have nothing to do with a rod and a reel.

As Dorthy said in the Wizard of Oz ; " Toto I don't think we are in Kansas anymore."

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My two year old has said worse. We've had to correct her from using the f word, from saying "oh sheeze", and damnit.

 

So if she says sucks as a teen and that's as bad as it gets it'll be a miracle. I blame her dad though for most of it, however, "Oh sheeze" is totally my doing.

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They are 14 thru 11 now. Honestly, I never really paid that much attention the first time I heard them say it. That's their mom's favorite word so I'm surprised it wasn't the kid's first word.

 

I'm just not all that legalistic when it comes to things like this. If the kid is excelling in school, being as respectful to others as they are and not using vulgarity, I am not about to start beating on them about using that word.

 

I have to agree with you-I micro-managed my childrens upbringing, and it did no good. Now, raising a grandson, I have a different perspective.

I "pick" my fights based on importance, and the word "sucks" just isn't that important to me as long as they are respectful, productive young people headed some where worth while in their lives. If they know when to use it, and where (maybe not in school to the teacher), I have no problem with it.The grandson is 10, almost 11, and uses it occaiaionally-always in context and never with an attitude.They are going to use those words anyway, so why make a big deal out of it if they are not being a rotten little cuss.

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I got a better four letter word.. lame. "Sucks" is only a bad word if you choose to let your mind go into the gutter.

 

Neither seem to do the trick when you hit your thumb with a hammer or cut yourself with a power tool. You have to reach deep into that four letter word bag and get a good one for that. :D

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