It was a casual friend who found her husband after he shot himself in the head. It was my sister in law who was on the phone with her younger brother BEGGING him not to when he shot himself. I knew both people who committed suicide and actually knew them pretty well, even going to the funeral of the friend's husband but not the other due to it being in another state. Also, my cousin's husband shot her and then killed himself.
I am so very sorry!
My younger brother had two friends commit suicide while he was in high school. One was a childhood friend and he never once mentioned suicide, totally unexpected, S was very close to our family and there were never any signs that he ever wanted to kill himself.
he was happy go lucky, class clown and all around great kid.
The other kid was like part of our familyalso. He was the son of a very prominent doctor in Cobb. I will call the child D, the initial of his first name.
D was a straight a student, very well thought of and respected by his peers. D was a perfectionist. He would cry if he made a B on a test, he would get very emotional when he didn't get a perfect score or
liftt the most weight out of everyone else in weight training. He put all of this pressure on himself, we really don't think it was put upon him by his family.
Prom night, his girfriend called at the last minute to announce she changed her mind about going to prom. D found a gun and stood on his deck outside while calling his parents out to the back yard where the deck was located. He told them he was going to kil himself and the parents, of course, begged and pleaded with him for about an hour. Just as they thought they had talked him out of it, he points the gun to his head and shoots himself right there in front of his parents and brother. Even though he had a few problems with being perfect, no one ever dreamed he would ever harm hinself. It was devastating, he was such a sweet, snart kid who seeminglyhad everything going for him.
I didn;t understand it then and I still don't understand to this day.
What is so scarey is that most of the time, there are no outward indications of people wanting to commit suicide. I do wish more was known about why people do this.
It mentally changes those of us left behind forever. I just always think about how sad and hopless they must feel and very alone. Very sad.