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Goodness, yes! Depending on the church you visit, you'll probably be in for somewhat of a surprise in the casualness of dress. While I personally don't do grunge for church, God isn't concerned what what one wears...He just loves that a person wants to worship.

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Yes.....I regularly attend and I don't own a dress, period!! I think most women do wear pants to church - especially when it's cold! But, even in summer, capri pants are the majority at our church.

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In Paulding County of 50 years ago women wearing pants was as sinful as drinking, believing in evolution or being gay. My. How interpretations have changed.

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It depends on which church you are thinking about attending. The church we have attended the last several years takes what Jesus said literally: "come as you are" and you don't have to wait until you can afford a suit & tie or dressy dress to attend. Most all people wear jeans and in the summer shorts/sandles/flip flops. I have to say that took some getting used to as I grew up in a Southern Baptist church where you didn't go to church service dressed that casually. But, I agree it is not what is worn on the outside but what is felt in the heart that matters. However, the church we used to attend it would be a sound NO!! They do not even approve of ladies wearing dress pants in the fellowship hall for meetings, dinners, etc.

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Pant suits are perfectly acceptable; just make sure your blouse isn't low-cut and that your pants aren't too tight.

 

Personally, I am opposed to jeans, flip-flops, tube tops, strapless dresses, etc. being worn to service. I mean, think about it: you'd wear a suit and tie or nice dress to meet the President, why would our Lord deserve less respect and reverence?

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Pant suits are perfectly acceptable; just make sure your blouse isn't low-cut and that your pants aren't too tight.

 

Personally, I am opposed to jeans, flip-flops, tube tops, strapless dresses, etc. being worn to service. I mean, think about it: you'd wear a suit and tie or nice dress to meet the President, why would our Lord deserve less respect and reverence?

On the other hand, the Good Lord made you butt naked and knows what we look like butt naked too. I think it is more about what is appropriate than what is "sinful." But people have always confused personal preference and modesty with what is sinful.

 

I do agree there is a limit but it is determined by society at large and not the Bible. IMHO.

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I think that it's a doggone shame that people are so casual about the way that they dress - regardless of the function!

 

The implication in the question "what does one wear" seems to imply, "What's the least dressy thing that I can wear and not have people think terribly of me?"

 

The real telling factor - kids. You rarely see a young person in a nice suit anymore. When I was a kid, (I know - a long time ago!) we had three or four suits so we didn't wear the same one all of the time.

 

Church, funerals, the opera, gala parties - I think that we're seeing a civilization decline and the way that we dress is an indicator.

 

 

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I do agree there is a limit but it is determined by society at large and not the Bible. IMHO.

 

Most definitely! I hate to see this part of our civilization decline, though.

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In Paulding County of 50 years ago women wearing pants was as sinful as drinking, believing in evolution or being gay. My. How interpretations have changed.

 

We had to wear dresses to school until 1971. Pants could be worn under your dress but had to be taken off when you arrived at school. This was in a neighboring Chicago city. Heaven forbid you should ever think about wearing pants to church............it was always Sunday Best.

 

I'm glad people realized God doesn't care what you wear. ;)

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We had to wear dresses to school until 1971. Pants could be worn under your dress but had to be taken off when you arrived at school. This was in a neighboring Chicago city. Heaven forbid you should ever think about wearing pants to church............it was always Sunday Best.

 

I'm glad people realized God doesn't care what you wear. ;)

Same in Indianapolis - dresses to school, dresses to church.

 

Just please don't wear Pajama Jeans

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Same in Indianapolis - dresses to school, dresses to church.

 

 

:rofl:

It's an example of how society takes its mores and inserts them into the Bible to determine sin and righteousness. My hot pants in 70s damned near got me expelled from school and the church.

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It's an example of how society takes its mores and inserts them into the Bible to determine sin and righteousness. My hot pants in 70s damned near got me expelled from school and the church.

It seems like the ones in school who got in trouble and the ones in church who people looked down upon -- They received scorn because they had something to show! The girls who weren't developed didn't get in trouble!

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I think that it's a doggone shame that people are so casual about the way that they dress - regardless of the function!

 

I could not agree more...like I said, I don't care what anybody wears to church, but I generally do not dress down (but not outrageously dressy, either). But I just about FELL OUT several years ago when I went to the symphony (properly dressed, natch) and saw a lady in a TUBE TOP (and it wasn't part of some snazzy ensemble, either). GAH!!!!!!!

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I dress up my jeans for church---nice jeans, nice blouse, dressy shoes/boots/etc. I do my hair and wear make up.

 

As a general rule, I never do less for church than I would do for work.

 

 

 

I started attending church where I was glared at and called out for wearing dress slacks. I told the pastor that if he bought me ankle length skirts, I'd wear them.....but I was a college student who had just started attending church for the first time in my life. I quit going a few weeks after that. It took YEARS to get over the damage that church caused.

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I started attending church where I was glared at and called out for wearing dress slacks. I told the pastor that if he bought me ankle length skirts, I'd wear them.....but I was a college student who had just started attending church for the first time in my life. I quit going a few weeks after that. It took YEARS to get over the damage that church caused.

 

That totally makes my heart hurt. :cray: :cray: :cray: :( :( :angry:

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I dress up my jeans for church---nice jeans, nice blouse, dressy shoes/boots/etc. I do my hair and wear make up.

 

As a general rule, I never do less for church than I would do for work.

 

 

 

I started attending church where I was glared at and called out for wearing dress slacks. I told the pastor that if he bought me ankle length skirts, I'd wear them.....but I was a college student who had just started attending church for the first time in my life. I quit going a few weeks after that. It took YEARS to get over the damage that church caused.

That is VERY sad but I completely understand. I have never worn shorts/flip flops to church - it just isn't me. But at the same time it is not my place to judge. In my previous post I mentioned a church we used to attend and not even dress slacks were allowed in the Fellowship Hall. I remember a man (probably in his 30's) who was visiting with a regular church member/Deacon. This man had shoulder length hair and was wearing a bandana around his forehead, wearing shorts and flip flops. It was apparent this was his normal dress. I will also never forget the glares and stares others gave this man. My heart broke for him and I never saw him return to church. Yes these people were Christians but their behavior and snubbing of this man was not very Christian-like. :(

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Where I worked part-time, a young lady came in to the office and she knew one of the owners from childhood. This young lady had purple hair and piercings and tattoos all over her body. (Me & God both love anybody with piercings and tattoos) But --- this young lady said to the owner - "I want to go back to church, but the last time I went, everybody turned around and stared at me."

 

The owner didn't miss a beat after she said that. He said, "Well, look in the mirror - it looks like you fell into a tacklebox!"

 

I thought I'd die right there. All day long, after I thought about what he said, I laughed out loud.

 

Nice pants and/or jeans and shirts are totally acceptable. JMO

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That totally makes my heart hurt. :cray: :cray: :cray: :( :( :angry:

I'm back on track now, but I could have been saved from a lot of typical college behavior and bad decisions if I would have been able to find a church family like I have now.

 

That church in is Villa Rica, btw. :)

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Here's what - If a church has a dress code, then they should post it like they do at some fine dining establishments.

 

Gentlemen Are Required To Wear A Coat And Tie or Tuxedo

 

Ladies Must Wear Appropriate Long Dresses

 

 

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I was brought up to wear your best to church.

It did not matter what your best was, as long as it was your best.

We didn't judge we just assumed that what you were wearing was the best you had.

 

Back then most people owned something they considered their Sunday best.

I like the notion of budgeting and purchasing something special to wear to the lords house.

 

My personal belief is that people should not wear anything to church that would cause another to have sexual thoughts in the lords house.

 

You are there to focus on spiritual things and to reflect on the weaknesses of the flesh.

 

It is just one hour of your week to be a spiritual being, most have plenty opportunity show off their bodies any other time.

 

I agree ES I am appalled at what some wear in the streets, I don't even dress that sloppy to work in the yard.

 

JJ and I were talking the other day about young people walking around in clothes that have obviously been in the bottom of a laundry basket all week.

 

I don't care how long you stand in front of a mirror and convince your self it is ok to leave the house that way, you are wrong.

 

I think you look lazy and careless.

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I think that it's a doggone shame that people are so casual about the way that they dress - regardless of the function!

 

 

a lot of people have NO respect anymore and dont seem to take anything seriously.

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I was brought up to wear your best to church.

It did not matter what your best was, as long as it was your best.

We didn't judge we just assumed that what you were wearing was the best you had.

 

Back then most people owned something they considered their Sunday best.

I like the notion of budgeting and purchasing something special to wear to the lords house.

 

My personal belief is that people should not wear anything to church that would cause another to have sexual thoughts in the lords house.

 

You are there to focus on spiritual things and to reflect on the weaknesses of the flesh.

 

It is just one hour of your week to be a spiritual being, most have plenty opportunity show off their bodies any other time.

 

I agree ES I am appalled at what some wear in the streets, I don't even dress that sloppy to work in the yard.

 

JJ and I were talking the other day about young people walking around in clothes that have obviously been in the bottom of a laundry basket all week.

 

I don't care how long you stand in front of a mirror and convince your self it is ok to leave the house that way, you are wrong.

 

I think you look lazy and careless.

 

 

Well put, Laurie.

 

What we wear is also a reflection of how much respect we have for that house and who it belongs to.

 

 

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Dressing up is a way of communicating, "This is important to me". You go to the Academy Awards or you're getting married - you wear a tux or evening gown/bridal gown.

 

Dressing in casual clothes is a way of communicating - "This is nothing special, not worth extra effort, it's an every-day thing"

 

Dressing in sloppy clothes, unclean and untidy - It's a way of communicating, "I have no self-respect". In some cases, it also communicates a lack of respect for others.

 

A good friend passes away. There should be no question as to what you're supposed to wear. You wear black, to indicate sorrow at the death and not bright colors to attract attention to yourself.

Your day is coming. You can wear bright colors then. And you wear a suit because what you want to communicate is that this person was important. He/she was special enough for you to go to

the extra effort to dress up for his final day.

 

Otherwise, you're just saying -- Ahhhhh -- he's not worth it!

 

It's kind of the same with church and this may be just an honest indication from church-goers that -- Ahhhh-- it's just not worth it!

 

The above certainly does not apply to the indigent! And people have no right at all to reprove or rebuke people due to their circumstances!

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Some folks just don't have the money to go out and buy new clothes to wear to church. That is the reason that some folks don't attend - they feel they don't have the proper attire. I don't think that what you wear is important as long as it is cleaned and pressed. Pressing does improve the looks of anything!

 

I would love to see all those folks who aren't attending church because they think they would be looked down on when they entered go to my church! They wouldn't feel out of place at all.

 

I'm sorry but I attended a small church for 12 years and if you were to wear anything other than a dress, you'd be whispered about. There was a couple who came in during choir practice one evening and sat down on the back row and I promise you, the folks in the choir got their high hats on!

 

I was raised like most everyone else on here - I had several dresses that I swapped out for Sundays. Up until 3 years ago, I felt like I was (and I'm quoting a minister I recently heard) at Sunday Morning Country Club.

 

I went to a Friday night Bible School 'graduation' for my grandchildren at the church and one of the deacons has the audacity to walk up to me and ask if jeans were the best I could do. I felt totally embarrassed because I had been out all taking my mom to the doctor, running errands, etc., and just didn't have time to go home and dress up and the kiddies were counting on nana to be there, so I went to church for a year or longer with hurt feelings. But you can be sure I 'dressed up' before I walked into church from that day until I found something BETTER!!!!

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I went to a Friday night Bible School 'graduation' for my grandchildren at the church and one of the deacons has the audacity to walk up to me and ask if jeans were the best I could do.

 

It seems clear that the deacon forgot to wear his best manners! While it's desirable for an individual to dress up for something special - the individual isn't accountable to anyone else!

 

I think that it would be different if you wore tattered jeans straight from working in the garden to a friend's funeral or wedding. A family member might rightly seem personally insulted.

 

In this case, the deacon had no right to take personal offense and he was way out of line for saying anything!

 

 

Oh, yes - about "not having the money". Assuming that a person has a job and is not indigent (doesn't require food stamps, etc) how that person spends his money is a matter of personal priorities. A suit jacket and coordinating pants can be found at just about any thrift store for less than fifteen bucks. Same thing with dresses, of course.

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Some folks just don't have the money to go out and buy new clothes to wear to church. That is the reason that some folks don't attend - they feel they don't have the proper attire. I don't think that what you wear is important as long as it is cleaned and pressed. Pressing does improve the looks of anything!

 

I would love to see all those folks who aren't attending church because they think they would be looked down on when they entered go to my church! They wouldn't feel out of place at all.

 

 

I agree wholeheartedly. I do not wear dresses - at all - even to weddings & funerals - I wear very nice suits or semi formal slacks suits - just my thing.

 

Mama always said neatness counts - we couldn't leave toys in the yard, where we lived was always neat & clean (our clothes were hand me downs from my cousins and, often, from our church after my dad died and she was on her own raising us), but they were STARCHED & ironed. Her thing was if you had pride in ownership & pride in your appearance, you could overcome anything.

 

Now, back to the church thing. I love seeing everyone dressed like you usually see at Christmas & Easter (sometimes the only two days some people attend a church), but, honestly, if your clothing is clean & neat, I don't notice. I think people need to listen to Colin Rayes What If Jesus Came Back Like That & let it be.

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Must have been the 70's since you've been. Not that I can say anything, I have worked half or more of my Sundays for the past 27 years.

 

Wear whatever you want. People don't seem to care anymore...unless they're going out with friends or to a wedding or a birthday party. You know, places where showing respect is important.

 

Stand by...shots fired! :ph34r:

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It's good to know that you can tell someone's intentions by what they wear.

 

 

I think that rather than their "intentions", you can tell about their priorities.

 

Take the parents of a child who says that they can't afford a suit for the child.

Look at the child's feet, at the $150 basketball shoes. The woman who says

that she can't afford a church dress? See if she doesn't have about 30 pairs of shoes

and some really nice party-type dresses!

 

It's all priorities!

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Just please don't wear Pajama Jeans

Although today was Jammies for Jesus day today at our church....

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Not sure what year it was--1974, 1975 or 1976--and I ALMOST got kicked out of church for wearing a short dress. Not a minidress by any means (my mom wouldn't have let me out of the house wearing one regardless of the fact that I was in my 20s). The preacher darn near took me and my best friend and escorted us to the door. Had her father not been a deacon, I am sure we would have gotten escorted out.

 

But to the OP, it depends on which church you go to if pants are allowed. I know of some in Paulding who do NOT allow the females to wear pants (or if the females do, they are made to feel most uncomfortable). To be on the safe side, I always wear a dress the first time I go to a new church. If I see other women wearing pants, I will not only wear them the next time, there will BE a next time. I won't go to a church that doesn't want you to be comfortable.

 

I, too, feel that God doesn't care what we wear. That's a human thing, not a God thing.

 

My hot pants in 70s damned near got me expelled from school and the church.

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Me myself think its a personal conviction of how you dress for Church and with me its how you are raised in Church. I was raised that women and girls wore dresses to Church that was a part of respecting God's house. I also went to a Christian Private School and had to wear dresses which with me that was not a problem. Which helped in a later marriage because he was from a Church of God family and they do not believe that women wear pants at all, at least back then. That "religion" has also became laxed in their "rules". As far as personal conviction I cannot walk into any Church or the fellowship hall with pants on because its my way of showing respect for God's house. I am 46 years old so yes I guess I am set in my ways...lol I taught my daughter and my son to dress to respect the Church house with the way they dress and I do say that I am proud of them. My daughter only wears dresses to Church and my son dresses accordingly also not always with a dress shirt and tie but mainly dress casual. So when it comes down to it really to each their own in the way that person feels in their heart. No, God does not look at the outward appearance He looks at the heart but from the heart cleans up the outward man. I had a former Pastor to once tell the congregation, don't worry about what someone wears into Church God will convict the heart to clean up the outward body. My opinion: Its just a respect issue and how you may have been raised...at least its that way with me.

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I grew up wearing dresses to church. I even went to a private school for several years where I was required to wear a dress. I am just one of those girls who is not extremly comfortable wearing a dress. I would rather dress comfortably to where I can actually listen to the sermon and not constantly think about the panty hose that I absolutely hate wearing.

 

I agree too on the comment that most people do not have the money to go out and buy new clothes to go to church. I dont see anywhere in the Bible where a nice suit and tie or an expensive dress is a requirement. I think thats just something that people 'added' in to make them feel better about themselves when they wore something expensive.

 

Not sure what year it was--1974, 1975 or 1976--and I ALMOST got kicked out of church for wearing a short dress. Not a minidress by any means (my mom wouldn't have let me out of the house wearing one regardless of the fact that I was in my 20s). The preacher darn near took me and my best friend and escorted us to the door. Had her father not been a deacon, I am sure we would have gotten escorted out.

 

But to the OP, it depends on which church you go to if pants are allowed. I know of some in Paulding who do NOT allow the females to wear pants (or if the females do, they are made to feel most uncomfortable). To be on the safe side, I always wear a dress the first time I go to a new church. If I see other women wearing pants, I will not only wear them the next time, there will BE a next time. I won't go to a church that doesn't want you to be comfortable.

 

I, too, feel that God doesn't care what we wear. That's a human thing, not a God thing.

 

 

 

I always wear pants the first time I go to a new church. Mainly to see what kind of reaction I get.

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I have never been as comfortable in a dress as in pants. Never.

 

When I was looking around for a kindergarten for my youngest, I omitted from my search one where dresses were required for girls. My daughter rarely wore one, preferring pants like I did, and I wanted her to be comfortable. I think I made the right choice, not just because where I sent her didn't require dresses for girls. I think the kindergarten was top notch and they cared more about what the kids were learning than they did what they wore. And yes, it was a church kindergarten.

 

I grew up wearing dresses to church. I even went to a private school for several years where I was required to wear a dress. I am just one of those girls who is not extremly comfortable wearing a dress. I would rather dress comfortably to where I can actually listen to the sermon and not constantly think about the panty hose that I absolutely hate wearing.

 

I agree too on the comment that most people do not have the money to go out and buy new clothes to go to church. I dont see anywhere in the Bible where a nice suit and tie or an expensive dress is a requirement. I think thats just something that people 'added' in to make them feel better about themselves when they wore something expensive.

 

 

 

I always wear pants the first time I go to a new church. Mainly to see what kind of reaction I get.

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I have never been as comfortable in a dress as in pants. Never.

 

When I was looking around for a kindergarten for my youngest, I omitted from my search one where dresses were required for girls. My daughter rarely wore one, preferring pants like I did, and I wanted her to be comfortable. I think I made the right choice, not just because where I sent her didn't require dresses for girls. I think the kindergarten was top notch and they cared more about what the kids were learning than they did what they wore. And yes, it was a church kindergarten.

 

 

 

 

I just never understood how me wearing a dress made me closer to God. But to each his own I guess.

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I think you have the right to have any dress code you want at your church. Go for it, and God bless you.

 

But I personally would have a problem with any church that thought of it as their church and not God's church, driving seekers away simply because they were not wearing the proper uniform.

 

But that's just me.

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