[eye4eye]

Well,Today has been one of those days.One were you fight and dont know what will happen next.Its hard but,then sometimes you make yourself so numb that its not that bad. Being out of work has been awful.I have had to stay home pretty much 24-7 unless Im out job hunting or at a DR's appointments.(Because its hard to meet friends when you get older that and im broke) The mold in the rental house is worse and the landlord could give a crap.My bronchitis is almost gone and feeling better except for the excessive sleepiness.The positives are I have 2 upcoming interviews.So, I have been trying to be in the spirit even though we have not one decoration up,being that we may be moving out at the end of the month-which really sux.In the last yr I have moved 5 times.I just now have got my unemployment thank God which isnt much,but it helps pay bills. All I have been wanting to do lately is watch a christmas movie here and there and maybe find a cheap artificial tree-(which those words coming out of my mouth of "artificial tree " are like nails on a chalk board) I know beggars cant be choosy and we are moving soon somwhere who knows.I have always had the tradition of cutting down a tree and eating cookies and drinking cider.This year it looks as if I may have to be out on my own because all this fighting and I dont feel like this is helping either one of us.I didnt want to see this happen but,i cant stop it.I wanted to go to the christmas parade but i didnt feel well.Today I wanted to go to the live nativity scene and activities in Dallas.But,unfortanatly we had so much too do to try and make money that we couldnt go.It burns me up because i want to do things and i feel i cant. If i could I dont have any friends to go with. I feel stuck.Its like "cabin fever". I know Im 30 yrs old ,jobless and stressed out but I need some kind of fun.Is that selfish?

[Blondiega1]

Have you considered divorce?
It's doing WONDERS for me!

[Papi]

I'm getting rid of her!

[Blondiega1]

You know when this is all over we GOTTA have a P.commers divorce party!
There's enough of us on here to throw one heck of a bash!

[Papi]

You know when this is all over we GOTTA have a P.commers divorce party!
There's enough of us on here to throw one heck of a bash!

My house, if I can get it.

I'm trying, she can't afford it. Then again she can pay it off with her settlement.

[Blondiega1]

Just name the time and send me directions and I'm SOOO there!
Can I bring a date??

[SBE]

Have you considered divorce?
It's doing WONDERS for me!

Not up untill now.

[Papi]

Just name the time and send me directions and I'm SOOO there!
Can I bring a date??

There will be plenty of pcom singles to choose from.

[Blondiega1]

There will be plenty of pcom singles to choose from.

Good point.
Mayhap I'll find that Sugar Daddy after all!

Or at least a rebound guy!

[eye4eye]

Think i just need to get drunk cry and go to sleep,but lol im watching the grinch that stole christmas,about to eat a frozen pizza and I dont know what then lol Im so used to everything being planned out.

[Blondiega1]

Ah StrawPie!
Sometimes there's nothing like a good Pity party.
Hope you cheer up soon!

[Ash]

I think about divorcing my husband almost every day, but I need to stick it out longer I think. He just is so selfish and is a very different person than I married.
My turd is a scrooge too, he woud rather not have a Christmas tree than help me do it, and he will not stop hunting long enough to help me shop for a few things, not much but I think it would be nice for him to go on at least 1 shopping trip with me. He never know what the hell I get the kids until Christmas morning. He is very selfish.

[eye4eye]

I think about divorcing my husband almost every day, but I need to stick it out longer I think. He just is so selfish and is a very different person than I married.
My turd is a scrooge too, he woud rather not have a Christmas tree than help me do it, and he will not stop hunting long enough to help me shop for a few things, not much but I think it would be nice for him to go on at least 1 shopping trip with me. He never know what the hell I get the kids until Christmas morning. He is very selfish.

Well, if you ever need any help shopping I think im pretty good at it , great with kids. I could help.Im a big kid myself.It would probably cheer me up to do something like that since I dont have any of my own, i want them but its not the right time.

Ah StrawPie!
Sometimes there's nothing like a good Pity party.
Hope you cheer up soon!

LOL Thanks Blondie I feel great now lmao I better go i think i burnt my pizza isnt that great? lol It gets better and better.I will be fine.I always am tough heart!

[Mrs. Osfan]

Bad things happen to good people throughout the year; even at Christmas time. I'm sorry so many of you are having troubled marraiges; perhaps even divorcing. I just wonder how many of you do any self reflection at all, about what your role was in the demise of your marraige. It's so sad to me that your marraiges are on the rocks and you consider it a laughing matter!

This post has been edited by Mrs. Osfan: 09 December 2007 - 05:21 PM

[nikki13]

Bad things happen to good people throughout the year; even at Christmas time. I'm sorry so many of you are having troubled marraiges; perhaps even divorcing. I just wonder how many of you do any self reflection at all, about what your roll was in the demise of your marraige. It's so sad to me that your marraiges are on the rocks and you consider it a laughing matter!

I you!!!

[Blondiega1]

Bad things happen to good people throughout the year; even at Christmas time. I'm sorry so many of you are having troubled marraiges; perhaps even divorcing. I just wonder how many of you do any self reflection at all, about what your role was in the demise of your marraige. It's so sad to me that your marraiges are on the rocks and you consider it a laughing matter!

I assure you I DO NOT consider it a laughing matter.
I do however make jokes as a way of dealing with a terribly sad and rough stage of my life.
This, I'm sure, you can understand.

[JMT]

To start with, I just have to say that I am SO thankful for my wife!

Speaking for myself -- I often need reminding that nothing else in my life is going to work as designed until I have my priorities straight with the Designer. And nobody else -- husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, child, parent, friend -- nobody else can get that relationship right for me by proxy. That feeling of longing for the Christmas spirit... that is a gentle knock on the door of my heart by the One who made it wanting to come in.

As for you, StrawberryPie, I sincerely wish you all the blessings of Christmas from the One whose birth it honors.

[A Gipper Girl]

To start with, I just have to say that I am SO thankful for my wife!

Speaking for myself -- I often need reminding that nothing else in my life is going to work as designed until I have my priorities straight with the Designer. And nobody else -- husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, child, parent, friend -- nobody else can get that relationship right for me by proxy. That feeling of longing for the Christmas spirit... that is a gentle knock on the door of my heart by the One who made it wanting to come in.

As for you, StrawberryPie, I sincerely wish you all the blessings of Christmas from the One whose birth it honors.

...tissue? somebody...tissue? anybody?
great post....as usual, JMT.

[lovemuppet]

love you too Nick!

And you too Kimmy!

Ah, Heck, I love all yall!

[Papi]

Bad things happen to good people throughout the year; even at Christmas time. I'm sorry so many of you are having troubled marraiges; perhaps even divorcing. I just wonder how many of you do any self reflection at all, about what your role was in the demise of your marraige. It's so sad to me that your marraiges are on the rocks and you consider it a laughing matter!

I assure you this is no laughing matter. You know me well enough to know that I joke to cope. I have thought long and hard about what I am doing for several months. I have had long conversations with you about this, you know how I feel. I do not hate my wife, nor do I bear any ill will towards her. We just don't work anymore. We both know it and we both know it is time to quit. Both of us deserve to be happy and we have tried for many years to be happy together. We have just reached a point where we are tired of trying. Love should never be hard. It has been too hard on both of us to love eachother.

I love you, MO.

[Riograce]

well, let me get my 2 cent in:

[snipped]

LoveMuppet, I can see this in a PM or a phone call, but NOT on a public board. Gee ....

[Blondiega1]

Love should never be hard.

I couldn't agree more.

[Dogz~n~Katz]

Christmas time should be a time for bringing people closer together, unfortunately in a lot of cases, this time of year can put a strain on relationships. This time of year people are under a lot of stress with money worries and just the general hustle and bustle that the season has become. People get so caught up in it that they forget what Christmas is all about. I'm guilty too. My significant other has been jumping on my last nerve for the last few days. He might have a date with a frying pan later. ::kidding::.......................maybe


I hope things get better for you Strawberry. ((hugs))

[JMT]

Love should never be hard.

Without directing this at anyone specifically, I will comment broadly on the quoted sentence above. My experience is that it is simply not true that "love should never be hard." Love is not a feeling, it's an ongoing series of conscious choices to put someone else's interests ahead of your own. This inherently conflicts with our broken human nature. Our instincts tell us to put ourselves, our own happiness, and our own interests first.

Sometimes couples may indeed reach an end of a viable relationship - fair enough. But the idea that those who stay together do so because it has "never been hard" is just not the case. Not only is it sometimes hard-- it's often very difficult -- and there are stretches where it's constantly trying. There may be some times where it's less difficult and times where it's more difficult. But in no case will one find that it's "never been hard."

Ditto with "Love means never having to say you're sorry." That's bunk, too.

JMO,
JMT

[Lady Raider]

Bad things happen to good people throughout the year; even at Christmas time. I'm sorry so many of you are having troubled marraiges; perhaps even divorcing. I just wonder how many of you do any self reflection at all, about what your role was in the demise of your marraige. It's so sad to me that your marraiges are on the rocks and you consider it a laughing matter!

I am so Thankful for my hubby.

and I admit Christmas is a little blue this year for my family because of my Daddy... but we are trying our best to make a good one for for him..

For those of you who are having martial probelms I am sorry... but it would be breaking my heart right now.

Strawberry hang in there...

[Mamma Smitty]

Without directing this at anyone specifically, I will comment broadly on the quoted sentence above. My experience is that it is simply not true that "love should never be hard." Love is not a feeling, it's an ongoing series of conscious choices to put someone else's interests ahead of your own. This inherently conflicts with our broken human nature. Our instincts tell us to put ourselves, our own happiness, and our own interests first.

Sometimes couples may indeed reach an end of a viable relationship - fair enough. But the idea that those who stay together do so because it has "never been hard" is just not the case. Not only is it sometimes hard-- it's often very difficult -- and there are stretches where it's constantly trying. There may be some times where it's less difficult and times where it's more difficult. But in no case will one find that it's "never been hard."

Ditto with "Love means never having to say you're sorry." That's bunk, too.

JMO,
JMT

I agree!

[lovemuppet]

LoveMuppet, I can see this in a PM or a phone call, but NOT on a public board. Gee ....

Well, knowing StrawberryPie, she doesn't have any reservations about posting her personal life here, MySpace, or anywhere else, so I don't find it nesseccary to PM here. Not to mention, if she is a concern to others here at PCOM, then I feel that they may want or need more than one point of view.

I mean no disrespect to Kimmy. As I have pointed out, she is my best friend. She hides nothing and therefore I don't feel the need to hide anything regarding her unless she reqests something remain private. Obviously this is not one of those times.

[Riograce]

... I mean no disrespect to Kimmy. As I have pointed out, she is my best friend. She hides nothing and therefore I don't feel the need to hide anything regarding her unless she reqests something remain private. Obviously this is not one of those times.

.

I guess you missed her reply late last night. If you haven't *spoken* to her today, it might be a good idea to do so.

[lovemuppet]

.

I guess you missed her reply late last night. If you haven't *spoken* to her today, it might be a good idea to do so.

I don't see her reply from last night, but I talked to her several times yesterday and last night on the phone. Things are doing better and they are working it out.

[Riograce]

I don't see her reply from last night, but I talked to her several times yesterday and last night on the phone. Things are doing better and they are working it out.

It was apparently removed - your original post is gone, too.

[DotCom]

And this would be in a food forum because....?

[A Gipper Girl]

And this would be in a food forum because....?

doesnt everything on P.com make the same amount of sense? What are you thinking,Glassman?

[Happy Wife And Mom]

And this would be in a food forum because....?

Duh, because the OP is strawberry Pie

[DotCom]

doesnt everything on P.com make the same amount of sense? What are you thinking,Glassman?

True dis.

Duh, because the OP is strawberry Pie

So, I guess now we need a glass forum for my posts?

[Madea]

Without directing this at anyone specifically, I will comment broadly on the quoted sentence above. My experience is that it is simply not true that "love should never be hard." Love is not a feeling, it's an ongoing series of conscious choices to put someone else's interests ahead of your own. This inherently conflicts with our broken human nature. Our instincts tell us to put ourselves, our own happiness, and our own interests first.

Sometimes couples may indeed reach an end of a viable relationship - fair enough. But the idea that those who stay together do so because it has "never been hard" is just not the case. Not only is it sometimes hard-- it's often very difficult -- and there are stretches where it's constantly trying. There may be some times where it's less difficult and times where it's more difficult. But in no case will one find that it's "never been hard."

Ditto with "Love means never having to say you're sorry." That's bunk, too.

JMO,
JMT

That was beautiful! Gipper, pass those tissue.

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[retiredteacher]

I went through some very trying holidays with my ex-husband. His family didn't make the same fuss as my family did. What I learned is that MY happiness wasn't dependant on his participation (or help). I made my own celebration and invited him to join in when he wanted. I've never had a bad Christmas!

[No name or fame]

Well,Today has been one of those days.One were you fight and dont know what will happen next.Its hard but,then sometimes you make yourself so numb that its not that bad. Being out of work has been awful.I have had to stay home pretty much 24-7 unless Im out job hunting or at a DR's appointments.(Because its hard to meet friends when you get older that and im broke)The mold in the rental house is worse and the landlord could give a crap.My bronchitis is almost gone and feeling better except for the excessive sleepiness.The positives are I have 2 upcoming interviews.So, I have been trying to be in the spirit even though we have not one decoration up,being that we may be moving out at the end of the month-which really sux.In the last yr I have moved 5 times.I just now have got my unemployment thank God which isnt much,but it helps pay bills. All I have been wanting to do lately is watch a christmas movie here and there and maybe find a cheap artificial tree-(which those words coming out of my mouth of "artificial tree " are like nails on a chalk board) I know beggars cant be choosy and we are moving soon somwhere who knows.I have always had the tradition of cutting down a tree and eating cookies and drinking cider.This year it looks as if I may have to be out on my own because all this fighting and I dont feel like this is helping either one of us.I didnt want to see this happen but,i cant stop it.I wanted to go to the christmas parade but i didnt feel well.Today I wanted to go to the live nativity scene and activities in Dallas.But,unfortanatly we had so much too do to try and make money that we couldnt go.It burns me up because i want to do things and i feel i cant. If i could I dont have any friends to go with. I feel stuck.Its like "cabin fever". I know Im 30 yrs old ,jobless and stressed out but I need some kind of fun.Is that selfish?

I'll be your friend!
You wanna hang out?

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[A Gipper Girl]

That was beautiful! Gipper, pass those tissue.

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couldnt find any...had to use my sleeve...I have another sleeve though,Madea...want it?

[eye4eye]

I'll be your friend!
You wanna hang out?

Sure sounds cool! I actually live in yorkville area.I always put rockmart/dallas because people know where that is.I live inbetween them. I have a rockmart address but live right past those signs that say yorkville lol.You have my favorite movie on your thingy- i forget what there called im still kinda new to this.A christmas story.I love it! Watch it a zillion times around christmas:)

[Bumplett]

Without directing this at anyone specifically, I will comment broadly on the quoted sentence above. My experience is that it is simply not true that "love should never be hard." Love is not a feeling, it's an ongoing series of conscious choices to put someone else's interests ahead of your own. This inherently conflicts with our broken human nature. Our instincts tell us to put ourselves, our own happiness, and our own interests first.

Sometimes couples may indeed reach an end of a viable relationship - fair enough. But the idea that those who stay together do so because it has "never been hard" is just not the case. Not only is it sometimes hard-- it's often very difficult -- and there are stretches where it's constantly trying. There may be some times where it's less difficult and times where it's more difficult. But in no case will one find that it's "never been hard."

Ditto with "Love means never having to say you're sorry." That's bunk, too.

JMO,
JMT

Bravo!!!

This was an EXCELLENT post -