[eym_sirius]

A comment by another poster made me think - Can someone buy access to me with gifts ?
Maybe it's a guy thing? Or an independent thing, I'm not sure. But I do know for sure that the answer is, "no", regarding personal social matters.

I wouldn't accept gifts as a way of someone getting my attention. I can buy my own stuff, but I think that's beside the point, which is personal pride and ethics. If I like someone, it's not because of what the other person can do for me.


How about you all?

[JerryLovedLSU]

Guys don't give gifts to other guys unless they are standing in their wedding.

[DreamGirl]

You can't buy friends or love.
Sigh.....

[gonefromhere]

What ya buying me ES???........

[starzplace]

I LIVE SOLO AND SUPPORT MYSELF I JUST THOUGHT THE OTHER POST WAS FUNNY BEING AS I HAVENT HAD A DATE IN FIFTY YEARS!!!

[eym_sirius]

gonefromhere, on 04 May 2012 - 09:48 AM, said:

What ya buying me ES???........

I agree with DG, except for the (sigh) ! You can't buy friends or love or happiness for others. It would be an exercise in futility.

Besides that, the premise assumed a desire for access.....

[Blondiega1]

I can be bought.
I'm not cheap, but I'm reasonable.

[eym_sirius]

JerryLovedLSU, on 04 May 2012 - 09:41 AM, said:

Guys don't give gifts to other guys unless they are standing in their wedding.

Are you familiar with the world of politics? Politics extends beyond, but also includes, elected/appointed offices. People try to buy people's attention all of the time. A person's sex is only sometimes related to attempting to use other people or otherwise gain access to them, by appearing generous.

[dumbestgirlintheworld]

I need context.

[MrsB]

Blondiega1, on 04 May 2012 - 10:11 AM, said:

I can be bought.
I'm not cheap, but I'm reasonable.

Bah! Reasonable.... I'm not going to lie, I'm awfully expensive. Lol

[mysterious]

Good post EYM.

Surely you realize that my other topic was in gest as a spin-off to the being followed threads.
Just an attempt at humor.

[dumbestgirlintheworld]

Read 50 Shades of Grey - it's spot on. With "things" usually comes a world that, in the end, you don't really want to be a part of...

[eym_sirius]

dumbestgirlintheworld, on 04 May 2012 - 10:19 AM, said:

I need context.

I'm having trouble coming up with a single scenario in which a person could offer to buy me something to access me personally (as opposed to professionally) and it would be proper for me to accept it. Do you have any ideas, situations, etc in mind?

[eym_sirius]

mysterious, on 04 May 2012 - 10:26 AM, said:

Good post EYM.

Surely you realize that my other topic was in gest as a spin-off to the being followed threads.
Just an attempt at humor.

Well, sure myste! But you humor-topic was based on a degree of realism (otherwise, where's the humor, right?) where people WILL take money, gifts, etc, in exchange for access to them - whatever that means. People can be bought - and I'm not implying that you are one of those folks.

[Blondiega1]

dumbestgirlintheworld, on 04 May 2012 - 10:26 AM, said:

Read 50 Shades of Grey - it's spot on. With "things" usually comes a world that, in the end, you don't really want to be a part of...

Yeah...........exactly what I'm getting out of it too.

[Starr & Dru's Nana]

With me, there's also a PIA charge. And I am very expensive. Shhhhhhh! Don't tell Pubby that.

MrsB, on 04 May 2012 - 10:24 AM, said:

Bah! Reasonable.... I'm not going to lie, I'm awfully expensive. Lol

[dumbestgirlintheworld]

I'm happy to share my experience. I spent several years with a man of power. I have been all over the world, given access to people and things that I never thought I'd see, I've had jewelry, clothes, a fancy car, a personal driver...I'm not sure it was "access", but I think it comes down to the more you make, the more you spend, and when you reach a certain level - it shifts to being less of a currency and more of a language.

I think everyone can be "bought", and are, by means in some way.

I spent years thinking that things were enough, until they weren't. Below is a pic of the last "gift" that was offered - sorry, had to edit to protect the innocent. At the end of the day, if someone wants "access" to me, personally OR professionally - they need to give me what I NEED, and in most cases no one NEEDS something material.

DISCLAIMER: I had a great few years - with a great person and I wish him the best of luck. I truly think that people with means enjoy giving, but it's been my experience (and not just during this situation) and that the giving of things is because they're not capable of the giving of themselves and can't offer what it takes to meet NEEDS.

This post has been edited by dumbestgirlintheworld: 04 May 2012 - 11:01 AM

[NC-17]

I've finally gotten selective about who gets to pay my bar tab.
Does this count?

[starzplace]

OF COURSE IT DOES DEAR!!!!

[MissSophie]

Back in the day . . I had some opportunities; not quite as elaborate as previously mentioned, but I just couldn't do it. But I agree that often "things" are to replace needs that can not be met. Not always, but in many situations. Usually those things have strings attached; sometimes tiny strings; sometimes ropes.

[Blondiega1]

MissSophie, on 04 May 2012 - 12:04 PM, said:

Back in the day . . I had some opportunities; not quite as elaborate as previously mentioned, but I just couldn't do it. But I agree that often "things" are to replace needs that can not be met. Not always, but in many situations. Usually those things have strings attached; sometimes tiny strings; sometimes ropes.

Sometimes nooses.

[mei lan]

MissSophie, on 04 May 2012 - 12:04 PM, said:

But I agree that often "things" are to replace needs that can not be met. Not always, but in many situations. Usually those things have strings attached; sometimes tiny strings; sometimes ropes.

Well said. My answer would be no. I'm too independent.

[Papi]

Blondiega1, on 04 May 2012 - 12:08 PM, said:

Sometimes nooses.

Only if your nice. GRRRRRR.

[Blondiega1]

Papi, on 04 May 2012 - 12:11 PM, said:

Only if your nice. GRRRRRR.

Let's not discuss our personal life please.

[mei lan]

Blondiega1, on 04 May 2012 - 12:08 PM, said:

Sometimes nooses.

Again, well said.

[Papi]

Blondiega1, on 04 May 2012 - 12:12 PM, said:

Let's not discuss our personal life please.

[eym_sirius]

mei lan, on 04 May 2012 - 12:13 PM, said:

Again, well said.

You SO beat me to it.

[Riptides]

mei lan, on 04 May 2012 - 12:09 PM, said:

Well said. My answer would be no. I'm too independent.

I was going to call the INS on Pablo, then show up Saturday to clean your pool in a thong.
Oh well least I can take the thong back.

[R&Rmom]

I almost never comment - but this post intrigued me....I wish someone would buy things for me....Unemployment ended, and I do not get any assistance - I need toliet paper, some makeup, tires and a tune up so IF and WHEN I get a job, I can get there - groceries to feed the kids would be peachy - the utilities need to be paid, so they could handle that as well...Hmm'f - never had the nerve, and praise God, the need, to ask for things, or accept them...but pride takes a back seat - is there a link to these wonderful giving guys - and preferably the ones with no nooses, strings or ropes....

[MissSophie]

R&Rmom, on 04 May 2012 - 12:43 PM, said:

I almost never comment - but this post intrigued me....I wish someone would buy things for me....Unemployment ended, and I do not get any assistance - I need toliet paper, some makeup, tires and a tune up so IF and WHEN I get a job, I can get there - groceries to feed the kids would be peachy - the utilities need to be paid, so they could handle that as well...Hmm'f - never had the nerve, and praise God, the need, to ask for things, or accept them...but pride takes a back seat - is there a link to these wonderful giving guys - and preferably the ones with no nooses, strings or ropes....

Ooooooh! Your circumstances warrants different actions. I am so sorry; you could care less about a nice trip; groceries are indeed pretty neat! Hope life gets better for you and yours.

[Gone]

eym_sirius, on 04 May 2012 - 09:37 AM, said:

A comment by another poster made me think - Can someone buy access to me with gifts ?
Maybe it's a guy thing? Or an independent thing, I'm not sure. But I do know for sure that the answer is, "no", regarding personal social matters.

I wouldn't accept gifts as a way of someone getting my attention. I can buy my own stuff, but I think that's beside the point, which is personal pride and ethics. If I like someone, it's not because of what the other person can do for me.


How about you all?

I see no harm in trying.I need some new camo pants,and some new fishing rods.....That's just for beginning,after that lets take our time.

[starzplace]

BLONDIE

[mei lan]

Riptides, on 04 May 2012 - 12:42 PM, said:

I was going to call the INS on Pablo, then show up Saturday to clean your pool in a thong.
Oh well least I can take the thong back.

Pablo is not illegal. He's an American robot. :disdainfulsniff:

[DreamGirl]

eym_sirius, on 04 May 2012 - 10:09 AM, said:

I agree with DG, except for the (sigh) ! You can't buy friends or love or happiness for others. It would be an exercise in futility.

Besides that, the premise assumed a desire for access.....

Sorry for the sigh, I've been SUPER busy and am SUPER tired.
----------------------------------------------
Buying happiness for yourself or others is do-able, but it is short-lived (usually)

Blondiega1, on 04 May 2012 - 10:11 AM, said:

I can be bought.
I'm not cheap, but I'm reasonable.

[sadie612]

if anyone wants to but me sumfin ...go right ahead

I like gifts

[Monkeytail]

Money can't buy my love, loyalty, or happiness. However I'd be willing to let someone try.

[sadie612]

Monkeytail, on 04 May 2012 - 03:28 PM, said:

Money can't buy my love, loyalty, or happiness. However I'd be willing to let someone try.

Then you don't know the RIGHT places to shop

[Blondiega1]

sadie612, on 04 May 2012 - 03:31 PM, said:

Then you don't know the RIGHT places to shop

RIGHT!!

Hey! Papi and I met your daughter at the bar-b-q place in Villa Hicka!
She's so sweet!

[The Postman]

eym_sirius, on 04 May 2012 - 09:37 AM, said:

A comment by another poster made me think - Can someone buy access to me with gifts ?
Maybe it's a guy thing? Or an independent thing, I'm not sure. But I do know for sure that the answer is, "no", regarding personal social matters.

I wouldn't accept gifts as a way of someone getting my attention. I can buy my own stuff, but I think that's beside the point, which is personal pride and ethics. If I like someone, it's not because of what the other person can do for me.


How about you all?

I appreciate your integrity, here, eym_sirius! You even used the word ethics, too. That is considerably uncommon here in the state of Georgia, where public corruption is worse than all the other 49 states. .

Allow me to explain what I'm saying.

A new report measuring states on the strength of their laws on public corruption and government openness ranks Georgia last in the nation, a grade state officials dismissed as a biased hit job.


The report, released today, scored states on 330 "corruption risk indicators" including open records law, campaign finance rules, and auditing and budgeting procedures. Georgia received an overall grade of 49 out of 100, an F.

Here is Georgia's report card:


Georgia's Report Card ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Well the report card is no longer available. But, that is not surprising to me. I'll find it somewhere else. Georgia's Report Card Note the Ethics Enforcement Agency's "F", and the stats Lobbying disclosure rate at "F". -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- State Sen. Don Balfour, Republican chairman of the Senate Rules Committee and one of the most powerful people in the Legislature, has also filed repeated false claims for travel reimbursements and committee-related pay. .

This post has been edited by The Postman: 04 May 2012 - 05:34 PM

[sadie612]

Blondiega1, on 04 May 2012 - 04:38 PM, said:

RIGHT!!

Hey! Papi and I met your daughter at the bar-b-q place in Villa Hicka!
She's so sweet!

She loves working there... Her bosses really treat her well.

Plus the food is amazing... We can not get enough BBQ egg rolls ( they make me happy lol)