[retiredteacher]

I taught HS and have some very painful memories of what can go on there, however, the first thing that popped into my head was the episode of "Designing Women" concerning self-defense. They were taught the usual things, but what stuck with me was the empowering cry. They were told not to be silent or call "help." They yelled "911!" at the top of their lungs. All children and females should be taught this, IMHO.

[Happy Wife And Mom]

My favorite!

[Moonie]

I just think that if changing her classes doesnt help then I might just do the Hardship School Choice option.

[Greatma]

Moonie, on 23 March 2012 - 07:29 PM, said:

The principal has talked to me with the utmost respect and Im going to meet with them on Monday morning and then Im on my way to the Sheriffs office to see what my options are for BOTH boys who have inappropriately touched my daughter.

I think you can file sexual hsarrassment charges against them. Ask the sheriff
about it.

[Moonie]

the SRO is suppose to be calling me tomorrow.

[overit]

Moonie, on 26 March 2012 - 06:26 PM, said:

I just think that if changing her classes doesnt help then I might just do the Hardship School Choice option.

Just be careful with your choice of new school. The middle schools in Paulding highly SUCK!

[dana]

overit, on 26 March 2012 - 07:01 PM, said:

Just be careful with your choice of new school. The middle schools in Paulding highly SUCK!

What in specific are you referring to? How can they all suck?

The educators at EPMS have been nothing short of great to me and my kids. I have had my share of issues but they have ALWAYS worked with me.

This post has been edited by dana: 26 March 2012 - 07:24 PM

[gog8tors]

dana, on 26 March 2012 - 07:21 PM, said:

What in specific are you referring to? How can they all suck?

The educators at EPMS have been nothing short of great to me and my kids. I have had my share of issues but they have ALWAYS worked with me.

SPMS has been great for us. Still have 2 years to go with them.

You know I had an admin tell me that 99% of kids behave themselves, and you never hear about them. But, the bad kids you always will do.

This post has been edited by gog8tors: 26 March 2012 - 07:31 PM

[Moonie]

If I had my choice I would put her n the new middle school.

[dana]

gog8tors, on 26 March 2012 - 07:27 PM, said:

SPMS has been great for us. Still have 2 years to go with them.

Isn't it amazing how much the educators appreciate the parental involvement? In my experience, as long as you keep in touch with the teachers, they will work with you in whatever capacity is necessary.

gog8tors, on 26 March 2012 - 07:27 PM, said:

SPMS has been great for us. Still have 2 years to go with them.

You know I had an admin tell me that 99% of kids behave themselves, and you never hear about them. But, the bad kids you always will do.

so true...

[gog8tors]

dana, on 26 March 2012 - 07:32 PM, said:

Isn't it amazing how much the educators appreciate the parental involvement? In my experience, as long as you keep in touch with the teachers, they will work with you in whatever capacity is necessary.

Yep, it really is.

[Starr & Dru's Nana]

I'm out of pluses and minuses for the day but I agree 100% with this. I discussed this with my daughter yesterday as she went through something similar when she was in school. I did not get the school involved or the news involved. I simply gave her permission to handle it herself. She did. Not only did the kid who felt of her stop, but nobody bothered her after that either. Same thing about the neighbor girl who bullied her. Nobody did a thing to her after she handled that situation. She even said yesterday that she had seen the neighbor girl a few years ago and they were quite friendly.

Also possible, at least according to what my daughter said to me, that the situation isn't exactly as mom thinks it is.

Mr.Dis, on 26 March 2012 - 05:18 PM, said:

IN MY OPINION you are making WAY too much of this.

You did notice the IMHO part right?

And yes my 12 y/o daughter, my wife and I all discussed this at length. We all agree, 1 boy... 1 warning then slap, kick, knee or punch at her descretion.

I only have this to say about the new middle school, based on what I have been told by several people within the school system RUN like hell.

Moonie, on 26 March 2012 - 07:30 PM, said:

If I had my choice I would put her n the new middle school.

[Moonie]

We will more than likely stay at dms as gas keeps going up n up

[Starr & Dru's Nana]

that shouldn't matter with school buses providing transportation.

Moonie, on 26 March 2012 - 07:45 PM, said:

We will more than likely stay at dms as gas keeps going up n up

[workingforaliving]

overit, on 26 March 2012 - 07:01 PM, said:

Just be careful with your choice of new school. The middle schools in Paulding highly SUCK!

I don't think that it's the school that sucks, so much as this kid.

[Moonie]

Starr & Dru, on 26 March 2012 - 07:50 PM, said:

that shouldn't matter with school buses providing transportation.

What I was talking about was school choicing her to another school.

[overit]

workingforaliving, on 26 March 2012 - 07:50 PM, said:

I don't think that it's the school that sucks, so much as this kid.

HUH?

[workingforaliving]

overit, on 26 March 2012 - 08:18 PM, said:

HUH?

The SCHOOL didn't sexually assult the girl, one bad apple did....or two....


Every school has a handful of rotten apples that ruin it for the rest of the kids who are just trying to learn.

[overit]

workingforaliving, on 26 March 2012 - 08:21 PM, said:

The SCHOOL didn't sexually assult the girl, one bad apple did....or two....


Every school has a handful of rotten apples that ruin it for the rest of the kids who are just trying to learn.

I saw Dobbins was the school Moonie was talking about. I should have explained myself better. Dobbins seems to be strict but productive.

EPMS and that side of town...you harldy ever hear complaints.

SPMS was AWFUL. Still is! Kids do fantastic when they transfer away from there.

Austin...ummmm has some really great ESEP teachers.

[gog8tors]

overit, on 26 March 2012 - 08:28 PM, said:

I saw Dobbins was the school Moonie was talking about. I should have explained myself better. Dobbins seems to be strict but productive.

EPMS and that side of town...you harldy ever hear complaints.

SPMS was AWFUL. Still is! Kids do fantastic when they transfer away from there.

Austin...ummmm has some really great ESEP teachers.

Excuse me!!! SPMS is the best!!! My DS is doing very well there. Better then expected actually. Matter of fact all of our friends who have kids there think it's the best school around. I have yet to hear any one complain.

[overit]

gog8tors, on 26 March 2012 - 08:32 PM, said:

Excuse me!!! SPMS is the best!!! My DS is doing very well there. Better then expected actually. Matter of fact all of our friends who have kids there think it's the best school around. I have yet to hear any one complain.

The best!!! Bless your heart, give it time. You will see. Funny how your friends love it, and the majority of people I know hate it.

[gog8tors]

overit, on 26 March 2012 - 08:36 PM, said:

The best!!! Bless your heart, give it time. You will see. Funny how your friends love it, and the majority of people I know hate it.

Maybe your friends kids are the little "angels" that cause problems, and that's the only time they get involved with the school.

[overit]

gog8tors, on 26 March 2012 - 08:40 PM, said:

Maybe your friends kids are the little "angels" that cause problems, and that's the only time they get involved with the school.

Don't act like an ass and insult parents and kids you don't know. Didn't you pull your OWN angel out of school because he couldn't handle it? Do you hold the teacher's hand this year to make sure they do it the way you want it?......... See, you just got pissed over my insult, didn't you?

Maybe we should let the OP have topic back. I not interested in a pissing contest with you...you don't realize other school systems are leaps and bounds ahead of Paulding. You can settle for that education for your kids if you wish!

[gog8tors]

overit, on 26 March 2012 - 08:55 PM, said:

Don't act like an ass and insult parents and kids you don't know. Didn't you pull your OWN angel out of school because he couldn't handle it? Do you hold the teacher's hand this year to make sure they do it the way you want it?......... See, you just got pissed over my insult, didn't you?

Maybe we should let the OP have topic back. I not interested in a pissing contest with you...you don't realize other school systems are leaps and bounds ahead of Paulding. You can settle for that education for your kids if you wish!

No, actually I didn't get pissed over your "insult." Mainly because I know you haven't the first clue what your talking about. You know how I know that? First you don't know my kid, and you have no clue why I pulled him for a short time. Second I know my child isn't an angel. Difference is I accept that fact.

No pissing contest here. I do know other school systems ahead, and behind Paulding. If you hate this school system so much, quit, or pull your kids out, or both. Unlike others you and one other teacher, I don't bitch about it. I take action. Yes, lets do give it back to the OP.

If it were my daughter, the boy would feel the sting of her hand. She would also know that I have her back. Oh, wait that actually did happen.

[overit]

gog8tors, on 26 March 2012 - 09:05 PM, said:

No, actually I didn't get pissed over your "insult." Mainly because I know you haven't the first clue what your talking about. You know how I know that? First you don't know my kid, and you have no clue why I pulled him for a short time. Second I know my child isn't an angel. Difference is I accept that fact.

No pissing contest here. I do know other school systems ahead, and behind Paulding. If you hate this school system so much, quit, or pull your kids out, or both. Unlike others you and one other teacher, I don't bitch about it. I take action. Yes, lets do give it back to the OP.

If it were my daughter, the boy would feel the sting of her hand. She would also know that I have her back. Oh, wait that actually did happen.

But you "know" me and all my friends have "angels". Hmmm, pot meet kettle! Your hollier than tho attitude cracks me up! Thanks for the laugh. How do you know excatly what actions I have taken? Love the fact you know it all! Bless your heart.

[gog8tors]

overit, on 26 March 2012 - 09:13 PM, said:

But you "know" me and all my friends have "angels". Hmmm, pot meet kettle! Your holier than tho attitude cracks me up! Thanks for the laugh. How do you know exactly what actions I have taken? Love the fact you know it all! Bless your heart.

A. If you have pulled your kids out of the system, and/ or you have quit, then why do you feel it necessary to insult the schools, and the system? After all you have no "dog in this" right?

B. I might know you, and your friends little angels. I know a lot of kids, and their families.

C. Usually after one has taken action, and the issue is resolved they aren't so vitriolic in what they state. Well unless they have a personal vendetta.

Bless your little pea pickin heart.

[overit]

gog8tors, on 26 March 2012 - 09:27 PM, said:

A. If you have pulled your kids out of the system, and/ or you have quit, then why do you feel it necessary to insult the schools, and the system? After all you have no "dog in this" right?

B. I might know you, and your friends little angels. I know a lot of kids, and their families.

C. Usually after one has taken action, and the issue is resolved they aren't so vitriolic in what they state. Well unless they have a personal vendetta.

Bless your little pea pickin heart.

D. LAST WORD...you can't seem to let anyone besides yourself have it!

[jmea]

Starr & Dru, on 26 March 2012 - 07:37 PM, said:

I'm out of pluses and minuses for the day but I agree 100% with this. I discussed this with my daughter yesterday as she went through something similar when she was in school. I did not get the school involved or the news involved. I simply gave her permission to handle it herself. She did. Not only did the kid who felt of her stop, but nobody bothered her after that either. Same thing about the neighbor girl who bullied her. Nobody did a thing to her after she handled that situation. She even said yesterday that she had seen the neighbor girl a few years ago and they were quite friendly.


I only have this to say about the new middle school, based on what I have been told by several people within the school system RUN like hell.

[
Just curious, what have you been told about the new middle school?

[Shananigans]

Moonie, does your daughter know HOW to knee a boy in the balls? We say it all the time but have you actually demonstrated it? Practice makes perfect.

[Shananigans]

And if you don't make a big deal out of it now then where's the line? We tell our kids that nobody should touch them where their bathing suit covers, but if it happens at school tough sheeze? No. Teach her how to smash the hell out of the offenders balls. If she's scared to do that then tell the principal that the school will be hearing from your lawyer and the media.

[Moonie]

Shananigans, on 26 March 2012 - 10:15 PM, said:

And if you don't make a big deal out of it now then where's the line? We tell our kids that nobody should touch them where their bathing suit covers, but if it happens at school tough sheeze? No. Teach her how to smash the hell out of the offenders balls. If she's scared to do that then tell the principal that the school will be hearing from your lawyer and the media.

I just want my baby to feel safe at school.

[fishnthec]

Both of my boys went to MS and HS here is Paulding County. For the most part I was happy with the schools they attended. They had a few problems here and there and I, being an involved parent, ran to their rescue. Now my boys are young adults and attending college and I have regrets. I wish that I had let them handle more of their problems on their own. Maybe if I had let them fail in middle or high school they would have learned how important it is to study. Maybe if I had let them stand up for themselves when they had issues with other students or teachers they would now have better problem solving skills. Every conflict should have been a life lesson that taught them that life is hard and not always fair. They could have learned that in life they are going to be people that they don't "like". I wish I had coached them on how to handle conflict and let them handle it instead of rushing in and fixing the problems for them. Instead, all I did was postpone their life lessons and they are much more costly and difficult to fix at this level of their lives. It is not easy to admit that I failed them as a parent. Like most parents I just wanted them to be happy.

I am not saying that the OP should not stand up for her child. I am just saying to everyone, learn from my mistakes. If your child is being bullied,take her to talk to the principal, BOE or whoever she has to to fix the problem. Coach her through it, but let her learn what to do so that in the future she will have the skills and confidence to stand up for herself. If your child is failing a class or having issues with a teacher teach them how to schedule a conference with the teacher to ask for help in solving the problem. If after they try on their own there is still a problem go in and do what you have to do to fix it. I wish someone had told me how important this was while my kids were in MS.

[dana]

Shananigans, on 26 March 2012 - 10:15 PM, said:

And if you don't make a big deal out of it now then where's the line? We tell our kids that nobody should touch them where their bathing suit covers, but if it happens at school tough sheeze? No. Teach her how to smash the hell out of the offenders balls. If she's scared to do that then tell the principal that the school will be hearing from your lawyer and the media.

I so agree with this. Teach the girl to defend herself and not take crap from some little boy who wants to touch her arse. I swear if one of my sons did that, they deserve to be kicked in the balls. This PC crap is getting out of hand.

[dana]

Moonie, on 27 March 2012 - 04:06 AM, said:

I just want my baby to feel safe at school.

Please go to the school and raise total hell, your daughter is being violated, you have every right to demand that it stop. Please. I mean you no disrespect but this is serious. No boy should be putting their hands on her, I would be at that school everyday.

[Mr.Dis]

Shananigans, on 26 March 2012 - 10:01 PM, said:

Moonie, does your daughter know HOW to knee a boy in the balls? We say it all the time but have you actually demonstrated it? Practice makes perfect.

Ain't NO WAY I'ma gonna let my daughter practice on me!! I might let practice on Dis jr. though.

[Mr.Dis]

dana, on 27 March 2012 - 07:05 AM, said:

Please go to the school and raise total hell, your daughter is being violated, you have every right to demand that it stop. Please. I mean you no disrespect but this is serious. No boy should be putting their hands on her, I would be at that school everyday.

The momment has passed. Raising hell now just will not accomplish anything good. What are they going to do. "Well guys, mom is here raising hell so we are going to add on a few more days of ISS and a PUBLIC lashing"? No they won't. I would be here defending the young lady had she slapped, kicked , punced or kneed either of the boys right off. She did not do that. The school can't just tell the boys "ok stand there and let her knee you in the nutz" now. Counsel the girl on what t do next time. An immediate retaliation or a verbal warning then retaliation, I do not care. Raising hell now is pointless.

JMHO

[Moonie]

The school has assured me everything was handled very properly. I hope this little boy has learned his lesson and will not do this to some other little girl. My daughter will kick em slap punch em whatever hse has to to protect herself.

[Starr & Dru's Nana]

Keep your eyes and ears open and remember his name because it WILL come up again and likely in an assault.

Moonie, on 27 March 2012 - 07:40 AM, said:

The school has assured me everything was handled very properly. I hope this little boy has learned his lesson and will not do this to some other little girl. My daughter will kick em slap punch em whatever hse has to to protect herself.

[Mr.Dis]

Starr & Dru, on 27 March 2012 - 07:44 AM, said:

Keep your eyes and ears open and remember his name because it WILL come up again and likely in an assault.

I agree with the first part. It is only wise to do so. The second part not so much. Kids have to learn what the boundries are. Hopefully he has learned. There is no proof that he did not.

[Starr & Dru's Nana]

I'm hoping he learned his lesson. There is no proof that he did.

Mr.Dis, on 27 March 2012 - 07:47 AM, said:

I agree with the first part. It is only wise to do so. The second part not so much. Kids have to learn what the boundries are. Hopefully he has learned. There is no proof that he did not.