You are correct, and that was my point --- battery it requires physical touch. Sexual harassment includes verbal & visual harassment, which are not criminal, but civil issues
This is the second time that Ive been called about boys that cant keep their hands to theirselves. Im trying to let the school handle this but I know for a fact that they can get in some serious trouble for this. WHAT DO I DO?
Bull crap, about waiting on the school to rectify anything! You have already given the school a chance. Two years ago, after 35 years of teaching, my sister inlaw retired. She is 7 years older than my husband, 9 years older than me, so her kids were in HS when ours started school and she told me then, watch out for them b/c some people go into teaching for all the wrong reasons. You make sure each teacher figures out early that everytime they screw up, they can count on a visit from one or both of you and that you will be in their face! She said that it may only take one appearance and it may take a couple of showdowns but if you have to go back a third time go straight to the principal, a fourth time go to the Board of Ed. Good luck and don't be intimidated!
That is ridiculous! So we need to blame the victim because they didn't stop the act committed against them, are you serious? Someone is assaulted and because they didn't or weren't able to stop the criminal, then they 'allowed' it to happen? I hope you're never on a jury for a rapist.
And what do you have to say to the parents of kids who committed suicide because bulling had become so intolerable? 'Sorry your kid killed himself, but if he hadn't allowed it to happen, he wouldn't have been bullied'?
What you fail to grasp is that if you accept the bullying ... you don't react in any way except to internalize it ... that is the path to suicide. That is allowing it to happen.
How do you stop it? You can fight back directly - kick, scream, superglue their pants to their desk ... or even tell someone! You reach out and do something to make it go away. Frankly, most other people are so in to themselves that they can't be counted upon to recognize that you are being bullied by yet another person.
The victim that does nothing is complicit. Do something, tell somebody. If you are being victimized, you can't do nothing and expect things to change.
What you fail to grasp is that if you accept the bullying ... you don't react in any way except to internalize it ... that is the path to suicide. That is allowing it to happen.
How do you stop it? You can fight back directly - kick, scream, superglue their pants to their desk ... or even tell someone! You reach out and do something to make it go away. Frankly, most other people are so in to themselves that they can't be counted upon to recognize that you are being bullied by yet another person.
The victim that does nothing is complicit. Do something, tell somebody. If you are being victimized, you can't do nothing and expect things to change.
pubby
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What you fail to grasp is that if you accept the bullying ... you don't react in any way except to internalize it ... that is the path to suicide. That is allowing it to happen.
How do you stop it? You can fight back directly - kick, scream, superglue their pants to their desk ... or even tell someone! You reach out and do something to make it go away ...
The victim that does nothing is complicit. Do something, tell somebody. If you are being victimized, you can't do nothing and expect things to change.
pubby
When I was growing up in general it was believed that if someone was putting down another person with words then the target of the put-downs would ignore the bully. It was not seen as accepting their words---on the contrary. Are you talking about bullying that goes beyond words and becomes physical? (I haven't read every post in the thread.)
I used to be a bully, but I" bullied other bullies. I also stayed secret. I was kinda like a sniper, but only used a ball bat.
When I saw a bully doing what bullies do, whether he was bullying me or someone else, I started studying him. I would watch (stalk) him just out of sight. I would be behind something when he walked by, usually at night. I wore a bag with eye holes cut out, and would lye in wait. I tried not to break any bones, but I guess it happened a time or two. I don't do vigilante justice any more, because it is wrong.
During my study and stalking, of bullies, I figured out one critical thing. They cry like babies when you catch them by themselves. I actually felt sorry for a few of them. When I warped them with the ball bat, I heard a lot more begging from them than they would get out of the people they bullied.
This post has been edited by The Postman: 30 March 2012 - 07:28 PM
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