[♥GaLinemansWife♥]

What are your thoughts when you see a pregnant woman smoking? Saw a woman at the store yesterday who was Clearly 7 or 8 months pregnant smoking in the parking lot. This makes me so sick and disgusted. It makes me so sad to think of that poor baby who will likely have problems the rest of its life stemming from the mothers poor choice and ignorance. I know some of you will say, ah, my mom smoked while pregnant with me and Im fine, blah blah, but......when you know better you do better. Do people not realize that the SIDS risk is So high for babies whose mothers smoked, respiratory problems, chronic ear infections, etc?!?! I cannot imagine knowing I was responsible for harming my child because of my selfish decisions. So sad.

[momof 3]

♥GaLinemansWife♥, on 18 January 2012 - 07:22 AM, said:

What are your thoughts when you see a pregnant woman smoking? Saw a woman at the store yesterday who was Clearly 7 or 8 months pregnant smoking in the parking lot. This makes me so sick and disgusted. It makes me so sad to think of that poor baby who will likely have problems the rest of its life stemming from the mothers poor choice and ignorance. I know some of you will say, ah, my mom smoked while pregnant with me and Im fine, blah blah, but......when you know better you do better. Do people not realize that the SIDS risk is So high for babies whose mothers smoked, respiratory problems, chronic ear infections, etc?!?! I cannot imagine knowing I was responsible for harming my child because of my selfish decisions. So sad.

2 words. Selfish, scumbag.

[Lady Raider]

I agree with what both of you have said

[♥GaLinemansWife♥]

momof 3, on 18 January 2012 - 07:35 AM, said:

2 words. Selfish, scumbag.

What gets me is how people aren't embarrassed by doing it in public......

[momof 3]

If she is stupid enough to do it at all, shes certainly stupid enough to do it in public.

[lowrider]

Well this should get good as the day goes on.

I'm a smoker but I quit each time I was pregnant. Makes me wish I had stayed quit but I didn't.

I thought enough of my baby to do the best I could. I followed Adelle Davis and ate good and took care of myself.

I was very fortunate to have easy pregnancies, no morning sickness, nothing. I successfully nursed and dropped all the extra weight.

With that said, it is sad to see someone smoking while pregnant, but it's not that easy. I know.

It's hard to quit under the best of circumstances. Who knows the situation the person is in?

It concerns me more when people drink and use drugs while pregnant.

And yes, my mama smoked while pregnant and I weighed 9 pounds and very healthy. In the 50's and 60's just about everybody smoked.

[momof 3]

IMO, there is no excuse or reason to smoke while pregnant. You have to out that baby first, regardless. Women also drank in the 50's and 60's while pregnant and that has proven to be dangerous to a baby's health. Should a womans circumstances be considered if she was pregnant and knocking back a few at a bar? No, they shouldn't.

This post has been edited by momof 3: 18 January 2012 - 08:33 AM

[MrsB]

I did not smoke while I was pregnant. I had actually quit before I found out. I would never do that. I think it's terrible.

[Tide Girl]

You know , I was Very young when I was pregnant the first .time .. Everyone in my Family smoked at the time and there was No education on it .. I did smoke with my pregnancy and I regret that decision today . However , saying that ....Kids that are Pregnant do not think they are doing anything harmful unless they have been taught that it can do harm . JMO

[Trixie's Treasures]

I have known several women who smoked during their pregnancy and their children had no issues during or after birth.

I smoked during my first pregnancy and I lost my baby at 32 weeks gestation due to a heart condition. Dr's say there was no connection, but in my heart and my mind, I will ALWAYS think "what if"
I quit smoking before my next pregnancy and did NOT smoke with any of my other 3 children. I am still quit today, it's been 10 years!!!!

I drives me crazy to see women smoking while pregnant or around their children even. YES, they know the effects but they choose to continue the habit. Yes Quitting is VERY, VERY HARD. But it's about the choices you make. I'm going to get off my soap box before I get wound up tight....

[Just thinkin' hard]

I'm not a smoker, never have been. My mom didn't smoke while she was pregnant with me.

BUT, if you haven't dealt with addiction and trying to break an addiction, please try to have some sympathy. I have watched friends try to break their addiction-whether is smoking, alcohol, gambling, etc. It's not easy on them. And, while it would seem that carrying a child within you would be the motivation to stop at least temporarily, addiction is a very powerful demon. She could have cut back significantly - maybe she was smoking 2 packs a day and now she's smoking 1/2 a pack a day.

While I find smoking just the most baffling habit (I get why folks smoke the second cigarette - I've never understood why anyone would put a burning stick in their mouth and breath through it the FIRST time), I've also seen folks struggle with addiction - and that's what this is.

[♥GaLinemansWife♥]

Just thinkin, on 18 January 2012 - 08:46 AM, said:

I'm not a smoker, never have been. My mom didn't smoke while she was pregnant with me.

BUT, if you haven't dealt with addiction and trying to break an addiction, please try to have some sympathy. I have watched friends try to break their addiction-whether is smoking, alcohol, gambling, etc. It's not easy on them. And, while it would seem that carrying a child within you would be the motivation to stop at least temporarily, addiction is a very powerful demon. She could have cut back significantly - maybe she was smoking 2 packs a day and now she's smoking 1/2 a pack a day.

While I find smoking just the most baffling habit (I get why folks smoke the second cigarette - I've never understood why anyone would put a burning stick in their mouth and breath through it the FIRST time), I've also seen folks struggle with addiction - and that's what this is.

I know how hard it is to quit and I thought about it every day while I was pregnant, I get it, but to smoke in public like that is like blatantly telling people you don't care that you're harming your baby. As far as not being taught by your parents, these days there aren't many homes without tv/internet where every other commercial or advertisement about the hazards of smoking.

[Tide Girl]

Just thinkin, on 18 January 2012 - 08:46 AM, said:

I'm not a smoker, never have been. My mom didn't smoke while she was pregnant with me.

BUT, if you haven't dealt with addiction and trying to break an addiction, please try to have some sympathy. I have watched friends try to break their addiction-whether is smoking, alcohol, gambling, etc. It's not easy on them. And, while it would seem that carrying a child within you would be the motivation to stop at least temporarily, addiction is a very powerful demon. She could have cut back significantly - maybe she was smoking 2 packs a day and now she's smoking 1/2 a pack a day.

While I find smoking just the most baffling habit (I get why folks smoke the second cigarette - I've never understood why anyone would put a burning stick in their mouth and breath through it the FIRST time), I've also seen folks struggle with addiction - and that's what this is.

It is an Addiction ! I appreciate your view point !

[CrownApp]

What about caffiene? Each of my doctors said that caffiene was more detrimental during pregnancy than smoking and that stopping during pregnancy caused more harm and stress on the baby's system than not stopping. I was in a group of 10 doctors and saw most of them and they all agreed. Where is disdain for caffiene consumption during pregnancy?

::throwingawrenchinthemachine::

[♥GaLinemansWife♥]

CrownApp, on 18 January 2012 - 09:00 AM, said:

What about caffiene? Each of my doctors said that caffiene was more detrimental during pregnancy than smoking and that stopping during pregnancy caused more harm and stress on the baby's system than not stopping. I was in a group of 10 doctors and saw most of them and they all agreed. Where is disdain for caffiene consumption during pregnancy?

::throwingawrenchinthemachine::

Oh I cant stand seeing women drinking what you know is coke, or coffee either, but smoking, I cant help but give them a dirty look as they show off their pregnant belly while puffing away.

[Tide Girl]

What is Weird , when I had My First and second child ... You could smoke in the Hospital ! I remember that the nurse went down to the little store in the Hospital and got me some smokes..

[jenilyn]

I drank a cup of coffee everyday while pregnant. Everything I read said it was fine, including my dr. I don't see a problem with it.

[lowrider]

Tide Girl, on 18 January 2012 - 09:15 AM, said:

What is Weird , when I had My First and second child ... You could smoke in the Hospital ! I remember that the nurse went down to the little store in the Hospital and got me some smokes..

You must be as old as me because that's the first thing I wanted!

Give me a cup of coffee and a cigarette! And I was at Northside.

[♥GaLinemansWife♥]

jenilyn, on 18 January 2012 - 09:25 AM, said:

I drank a cup of coffee everyday while pregnant. Everything I read said it was fine, including my dr. I don't see a problem with it.

Everything I read said it sped up the baby's heartbeat so even when things said in moderation, I didnt like the thought of doing it.

[Tide Girl]

lowrider, on 18 January 2012 - 09:27 AM, said:

You must be as old as me because that's the first thing I wanted!

Give me a cup of coffee and a cigarette! And I was at Northside.

I must me , LOL ! I was in Alabama at the time . and You could smoke on the air planes too ! wow !

[Just thinkin' hard]

I drank diet coke throughout both pregnancies. Doc didn't like it - but he told me to drink the diet coke instead of taking the advil for the migraines that I had the entire pregnancy.

[LuV D@ M0N3Y]

I have 1 caffeine drink a day, My Doctor told me it was fine in moderation. I cant help it but I CRAVE a coke!
AS for smoking, I had some friends smoke during their entire pregnancies one smoked NEWPORTS menthol the worst kind! AND worked in a really smokey bar! And her baby was born small with breathing problems, also had RSV .. it was so so sad!
The other one had a low weight baby and he now has breathing problems as well... So it does effect the babies rather people think it does or not.
It def makes me look at them like WHAT THE HECK are you DOING! I catch myself eyeballing all the time when I see them.

Also, In high school we had someone who was pregnant smoke POT her ENTIRE PREGNANCY .. she said it didn't hurt her baby and he is really smart .. i said that is fine he maybe smart now but he may not remember ANYTHING in the next 5 years or so!

I think its very sad how some woman treat themselves while preggo and could careless at the risk just so they can smoke, hang out, or fix their addiction.

[nowens98]

I HATE to see pregnant women smoking or anyone smoking with kids in the car. I am an EX-smoker and quit during all 4 pregnancies, and gave it up for good in Sept 2010!! When I did smoke, I never did it around my kids, they didn't even know I smoked b/c I only did it while they were sleeping or at school.

Last week I was in carpool line to pick my DD up from pre-k and there is a GIANT sign in the parking lot that says "NO SMOKING ON SCHOOL GROUNDS" and a lady got her child buckled and fired one up right there while we were waiting for the line to start moving. I wanted to yank her kid out of the car and give him some fresh air!

[tbird]

lowrider, on 18 January 2012 - 09:27 AM, said:

You must be as old as me because that's the first thing I wanted!

Give me a cup of coffee and a cigarette! And I was at Northside.

Me too!!!

I will probably get beat up over this, but I smoked and drank a lot of coffee with all 3 of mine--30+ years ago. Back then the Drs. wouldn't say much about it. My MIL kept telling me that they would come out looking like alligators from all the dry skin--never did--they were all perfect!!All were big healthy babies (smallest was 8lbs 15 oz and the largest was 10 lbs). No health problems at all and they are all still very healthy, well, maybe except for the oldest who is very accident prone--and always has been!!!

I do think that alot of the problems kids have now days is related to the lifestyle. Back when we were growing up, there wasn't all this fast food, processed food, etc.

And I am also one that belives that there are parents out there that don't so there parenting job and just put their kids on meds, call the ADHD, Autistic, slow or whatever, just to give them the excuse and not looking as bad as a parent. You can see it out in public all the time. Don't get me wrong--I know that there are kids out there who really do have problems and it is nobody's fault. But I can guarantee you that is not all of them---there is a huge number of parents to blame and mostly they are just lazy as hell and could care less.

Fire away!!

[NoReason]

lordy, Lordy, Lordy

[NoReason]

♥GaLinemansWife♥, on 18 January 2012 - 09:04 AM, said:

Oh I cant stand seeing women drinking what you know is coke, or coffee either, but smoking, I cant help but give them a dirty look as they show off their pregnant belly while puffing away.

I must have missed it..Your dirty look that is.

[MrsB]

While I was pregnant my doctors said caffeine was fine, just not a lot. I was told I could have the equivelant of 2 cups of coffee throughout the day.

[A Gipper Girl]

My young step-daughters mother smoked during both pregnancies. She was told repeatedly to stop but didnt. EVERYTIME I see her(even in pics), she has a cigarette in her hand . I am probably more repulsed than the average person by cigarettes but thats just me. She KNEW it was bad for her babies and did it anyway and continues to smoke daily(round the clock)in the house or car with the 2 girls breathing it all in.

Even if it ISNT as bad as we think to smoke while pregnant(I believe it is), why would ANY woman do it after knowing what we know now and being told over and over by her doctor that it is bad for her baby? Selfishness and stupidity.

[sandra_92083]

When you have so much control over the unborn life you are growing I've NEVER understood not doing EVERYTHING in your power to give that little life the VERY best chance at a healthy beginning - eating well, drinking the right things, limiting caffeine, chemicals, etc. Even if some of the things might seem silly or someone else did it and their baby is "fine" I am always going to be extra cautious during pregnancy because you just never know and I don't ever want to wonder "what if"...

[A Gipper Girl]

sandra_92083, on 18 January 2012 - 11:18 AM, said:

When you have so much control over the unborn life you are growing I've NEVER understood not doing EVERYTHING in your power to give that little life the VERY best chance at a healthy beginning - eating well, drinking the right things, limiting caffeine, chemicals, etc. Even if some of the things might seem silly or someone else did it and their baby is "fine" I am always going to be extra cautious during pregnancy because you just never know and I don't ever want to wonder "what if"...

well said and I agree. I mean, its temporary! I dont understand why any woman thinks she will make a good mother FOREVER who refuses to put down a nasty, dangerous and unhealthy habit for a FEW months.

[krwills]

If they have that much trouble with their own addiction, why would they want to bring an addicted child into this world?

If you choose to bring a child into this life, you should be willing to do absolutely EVERYTHING it takes to give them the best possible start to life they can have.

Even with the best of beginnings, life will still be tough.

If you cannot control yourself for 9 months to give birth, how can you expect to control and raise a productive, happy adult from that baby?

[NoReason]

A Gipper Girl, on 18 January 2012 - 11:41 AM, said:

well said and I agree. I mean, its temporary! I dont understand why any woman thinks she will make a good mother FOREVER who refuses to put down a nasty, dangerous and unhealthy habit for a FEW months.

What makes YOU think you know what makes a good mother or not? Get off your high horse darlin.

[NoReason]

krwills, on 18 January 2012 - 11:46 AM, said:

If they have that much trouble with their own addiction, why would they want to bring an addicted child into this world?

If you choose to bring a child into this life, you should be willing to do absolutely EVERYTHING it takes to give them the best possible start to life they can have.

Even with the best of beginnings, life will still be tough.

If you cannot control yourself for 9 months to give birth, how can you expect to control and raise a productive, happy adult from that baby?

Really? First of all I married one. He is very productive and happy adult. I mean he does get pissy sometimes. Do you think that is from his mother who smoked while pregnant?

[krwills]

If he was old enough to marry, he was born before there was so much information available as to what all the problems it can cause was public knowledge. Ya think?

[A Gipper Girl]

NoReason, on 18 January 2012 - 11:47 AM, said:

What makes YOU think you know what makes a good mother or not? Get off your high horse darlin.

I DO know what makes a good mother. I had the very best and I am one. Sacrificing what you WANT for what your child NEEDS is the first thing.
And, I like it up here, shug.

[NoReason]

krwills, on 18 January 2012 - 11:53 AM, said:

If he was old enough to marry, he was born before there was so much information available as to what all the problems it can cause was public knowledge. Ya think?

Let's think here for a moment...

The POSSIBLE RISK that are known today still exist 34 years ago even though it was not known..BUT STILL EXIST EITHER WAY. and you said


If you cannot control yourself for 9 months to give birth, how can you expect to control and raise a productive, happy adult from that baby?


and you are wrong


YA THINK?

[dumbestgirlintheworld]

I don't condone it, but it seems like a small thing compared to some situations that people bring children into.

Don't smoke, drink or do anything illegal, have the financial means to take care of your stuff. If possible, have a baby daddy that isn't an ass - or (gasp!) be married, be able to provide educational support and involvement...

The list goes on and on and on. Chances are a fetus will survive a smoking mother that likes coffee (as they did so much so long ago), it's the survival of crappy mothers that breaks my heart.

[NoReason]

A Gipper Girl, on 18 January 2012 - 11:54 AM, said:

I DO know what makes a good mother. I had the very best and I am one. Sacrificing what you WANT for what your child NEEDS is the first thing.
And, I like it up here, shug.

Just remember it's a long way down..

[dumbestgirlintheworld]

A Gipper Girl, on 18 January 2012 - 11:54 AM, said:

I DO know what makes a good mother. I had the very best and I am one. Sacrificing what you WANT for what your child NEEDS is the first thing.
And, I like it up here, shug.

I learned that one of the characteristics that makes me the best mother I can be is being humble.

Glass houses and all that.

[A Gipper Girl]

NoReason, on 18 January 2012 - 12:00 PM, said:

Just remember it's a long way down..

oh, come on. Its a thread on a public msg board. Its my opinion. Yours is just as valuable.