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Posted 22 August 2011 - 08:37 AM

I have a 6-year-old son in 1st grade this year. He went to private preschool when he was 4 and never once had a behavior problem. They used a color system with green being best behavior, and he always came home with yellow. Both of his teachers always talked about how well behaved he was.

Last year in kindergarten, same deal, except the best color for behavior was yellow, and again...he never moved from yellow. Always came home with a yellow smiley face. I volunteered extensively in his class, and both teachers again said how great he was and how he always listened and never gave them a problem. He was THE most well behaved child in the classroom, according to them. The art teacher, guidance counselor, vice principal, librarian, etc...all always spoke highly of him.

This year...he has remained on the best color for behavior (blue), but I get a note the other day saying "Sweet boy! We are working on following directions when asked." I was confused as to whether she meant that the whole class was working on following directions and that my son was one of the better behaved kids or if she meant he was having behavior problems. I sent a note back and asked if she meant him or the whole class. She responds with him "and a few others."

Now...I'm not saying my kid is an angel, because he's not. He's hyperactive at home, to say the least, and if we go places and I'm busy shopping or talking with someone, he can run around like crazy with his brother.

BUT...he is VERY well behaved at school, and I know this for a fact and by his record and testimony from all of his past teachers. He ALWAYS listens to his teachers. Being good at school and getting rewards is very important to him. He's so good that another kid who was in his class last year told his teacher this year that "he helps people do the right thing"...referring to my son. So I just have a hard time believe that all of a sudden he has some problem with listening, when he's never...not even one time...had an issue.

I'm going in to talk with the teacher today about this and observe his behavior, but I am just wondering if anyone else has ever experienced a sudden behavior change in their child or even..."misunderstanding" by the teacher. I asked my son about the note she put in his agenda, and he said it's not true...that he listens and that she just doesn't like him. Why a 6-year-old would say that, I don't know...unless it were true.

**I also want to add that I would always tend to believe the adult in a situation, except for the fact that my son never had even ONE issue of not listening...not even a warning...not one...in 2 years. That's pretty unheard of with little kids, so I know that being good is important to him so he can get his little rewards in class, etc. And I had more than one teacher growing up, even in elementary, that I felt didn't like me and singled me out...

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Posted 22 August 2011 - 08:45 AM

From my personal experience, I wouldn't necessarily just chalk it up to "teacher doesn't like me".

When I was a kid, I followed the rules. Never caused an ounce of trouble. Listened, followed the rules, etc. But my kindergarten teacher, nope, we were oil and water. It wasn't that the teacher didn't like ME, it was I had a problem with HER. Couldn't tell you what it was that I, as a child, didn't like, but I just didn't like her. I'd look/act like a good kid with everyone else - teachers, principals, everybody was surprised when the teacher said I that I needed to work on listening - but I would push EVERY button I could with her. I was just a stinker that way. :ninja:
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 08:47 AM

I sweated all that color stuff every single day last year.

Not gonna do it again this year unless it's bad.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 08:53 AM

It could be something as simple as seating placement too. If he is sitting with a group that is a little more talkative he may be joining in the conversations more than he has in the past. It doesn't sound to me like the teacher is saying anything too negative at this point. You might just want to check out the situation.

Just for the record, my son made it all the way through high school without ever being in ISS or serious trouble. He did get called out by teachers a few times for being "too social". :blush: His go to excuse was always, "the teacher doesn't like me." I think that is the standard line. I wouldn't put too much stock into that at this point in the year.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 08:54 AM

View Postasdfasdfasdfasd, on 22 August 2011 - 08:37 AM, said:

I have a 6-year-old son in 1st grade this year. He went to private preschool when he was 4 and never once had a behavior problem. They used a color system with green being best behavior, and he always came home with yellow. Both of his teachers always talked about how well behaved he was.

Last year in kindergarten, same deal, except the best color for behavior was yellow, and again...he never moved from yellow. Always came home with a yellow smiley face. I volunteered extensively in his class, and both teachers again said how great he was and how he always listened and never gave them a problem. He was THE most well behaved child in the classroom, according to them. The art teacher, guidance counselor, vice principal, librarian, etc...all always spoke highly of him.

This year...he has remained on the best color for behavior (blue), but I get a note the other day saying "Sweet boy! We are working on following directions when asked." I was confused as to whether she meant that the whole class was working on following directions and that my son was one of the better behaved kids or if she meant he was having behavior problems. I sent a note back and asked if she meant him or the whole class. She responds with him "and a few others."

Now...I'm not saying my kid is an angel, because he's not. He's hyperactive at home, to say the least, and if we go places and I'm busy shopping or talking with someone, he can run around like crazy with his brother.

BUT...he is VERY well behaved at school, and I know this for a fact and by his record and testimony from all of his past teachers. He ALWAYS listens to his teachers. Being good at school and getting rewards is very important to him. He's so good that another kid who was in his class last year told his teacher this year that "he helps people do the right thing"...referring to my son. So I just have a hard time believe that all of a sudden he has some problem with listening, when he's never...not even one time...had an issue.

I'm going in to talk with the teacher today about this and observe his behavior, but I am just wondering if anyone else has ever experienced a sudden behavior change in their child or even..."misunderstanding" by the teacher. I asked my son about the note she put in his agenda, and he said it's not true...that he listens and that she just doesn't like him. Why a 6-year-old would say that, I don't know...unless it were true.

**I also want to add that I would always tend to believe the adult in a situation, except for the fact that my son never had even ONE issue of not listening...not even a warning...not one...in 2 years. That's pretty unheard of with little kids, so I know that being good is important to him so he can get his little rewards in class, etc. And I had more than one teacher growing up, even in elementary, that I felt didn't like me and singled me out...


I would not worry too much, they want them to work more in first grade, they get use to having simple task and more move around time before first grade.
The adjustment is just harder for some kids.
I would say support the teacher since it is so early in the school year.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 09:05 AM

I considered that maybe he was talking or something, but that's just very opposite of how he was last year. He was always the kid telling everyone else to be quiet...quite frankly, he's a tattle tail if anything. He just really enjoys being good at school! Lol.

The one thing I think may be a problem is that he is not being challenged, I know that for sure! All of the books they are reading are books he could read *before* preschool. I had a talk with the teacher before school started and told her that he can read novels, but I guess they just aren't to the point yet where they can really set some students aside and give them harder/extra work. I know he is bored. I really feel like Poole has not done enough to challenge him. Virtually all of last year he was bored because his reading was well beyond the other students in his class. He had the highest reading score on DIBELS. His score was quadruple what some of the other kids scored.

With all of that said, we should be moving in early October. We have a contract on a house in Cobb, so as long as everything goes okay, he'll be in Bullard elementary, which is supposed to be a very good school. On Great Schools, Poole received a 5/10, while Bullard got a 9/10...that is based on test scores, etc. So...maybe he will be more challenged there.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 09:10 AM

View PostJerryLovedLSU, on 22 August 2011 - 08:47 AM, said:

I sweated all that color stuff every single day last year.

Not gonna do it again this year unless it's bad.


I know what you mean. Honestly, it wouldn't bother me if he had a record of misbehaving here and there or being warned. He still hasn't moved off of "perfect behavior," but the fact that it's been suggested by the teacher that he is having problems following directions bothers me since there has never been even once time of him being even warned in 2 years. I will expect my middle child to come home with some warnings, etc., however. :)
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 09:10 AM

View Postasdfasdfasdfasd, on 22 August 2011 - 09:05 AM, said:

I considered that maybe he was talking or something, but that's just very opposite of how he was last year. He was always the kid telling everyone else to be quiet...quite frankly, he's a tattle tail if anything. He just really enjoys being good at school! Lol.

The one thing I think may be a problem is that he is not being challenged, I know that for sure! All of the books they are reading are books he could read *before* preschool. I had a talk with the teacher before school started and told her that he can read novels, but I guess they just aren't to the point yet where they can really set some students aside and give them harder/extra work. I know he is bored. I really feel like Poole has not done enough to challenge him. Virtually all of last year he was bored because his reading was well beyond the other students in his class. He had the highest reading score on DIBELS. His score was quadruple what some of the other kids scored.

With all of that said, we should be moving in early October. We have a contract on a house in Cobb, so as long as everything goes okay, he'll be in Bullard elementary, which is supposed to be a very good school. On Great Schools, Poole received a 5/10, while Bullard got a 9/10...that is based on test scores, etc. So...maybe he will be more challenged there.


I can see were boredom could be a big issue, I hope his next school can challenge him more.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 05:27 PM

It's not okay to have a smart kid.

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Posted 22 August 2011 - 05:40 PM

Funny how you get a negative rating when you say your kid is smart. I'm sorry...are our kids supposed to be average? I have 3 kids, and it's too early to tell with my youngest, but I don't think my middle child is going to be as smart as my oldest, and I'm fine with that, but there's nothing wrong with stating your child is advanced if they are and expecting the school to challenge them!
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 05:45 PM

View Postasdfasdfasdfasd, on 22 August 2011 - 05:40 PM, said:

Funny how you get a negative rating when you say your kid is smart. I'm sorry...are our kids supposed to be average? I have 3 kids, and it's too early to tell with my youngest, but I don't think my middle child is going to be as smart as my oldest, and I'm fine with that, but there's nothing wrong with stating your child is advanced if they are and expecting the school to challenge them!


I think the negative ratings come from the fact that you sound like a complete a-hole, smart kid or not, but that is just me.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 05:46 PM

View PostHiramGirl, on 22 August 2011 - 05:45 PM, said:

I think the negative ratings come from the fact that you sound like a complete a-hole, smart kid or not, but that is just me.


If you had the same experience, hopefully you would be an asshole for your kid too!
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 05:54 PM

View Postasdfasdfasdfasd, on 22 August 2011 - 05:46 PM, said:

If you had the same experience, hopefully you would be an asshole for your kid too!


Funny, nothing I read would have gotten my dander up. If your kid is not being challenged in school, you challenge them. If you don't like how things are at Poole, school choice. If you don't like public schools, homeschool or private school. It is not the school's job to make sure your genius child stays a genius. It is your job.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 05:59 PM

View PostHiramGirl, on 22 August 2011 - 05:54 PM, said:

Funny, nothing I read would have gotten my dander up. If your kid is not being challenged in school, you challenge them. If you don't like how things are at Poole, school choice. If you don't like public schools, homeschool or private school. It is not the school's job to make sure your genius child stays a genius. It is your job.


I have challenged him. That's why he's where he is. I have made every effort to get the school to give him extra work, different class, etc., but it seems like 1st grade is just a repeat of kindergarten.

And...if you read my post, we are moving into Cobb county, where apparently the schools are twice as good. So, he will probably be average in a school that actually has a challenging curriculum. Basic phonics should have been learned last year.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:01 PM

I have a 1st grader too. You have to pick your battles. As long as your son is not saying anything (without you questioning him), than I would not worry about it too much. You win some and you lose some. That's life.

Since he is very smart than he will do fine, it is just 1st grade after all. This will not matter in a few years.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:07 PM

I read your post perfectly clear. Re-read what you wrote: to get the school to give him. And, if you think that Bullard will do a better job of keeping your kid challenged, you just might find yourself upset. Bullard has the same challenges almost all public schools have: they have to teach everyone. Smart kids who want to learn, dumb kids who do not.



View Postasdfasdfasdfasd, on 22 August 2011 - 05:59 PM, said:

I have challenged him. That's why he's where he is. I have made every effort to get the school to give him extra work, different class, etc., but it seems like 1st grade is just a repeat of kindergarten.

And...if you read my post, we are moving into Cobb county, where apparently the schools are twice as good. So, he will probably be average in a school that actually has a challenging curriculum. Basic phonics should have been learned last year.

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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:32 PM

View PostHiramGirl, on 22 August 2011 - 06:07 PM, said:

I read your post perfectly clear. Re-read what you wrote: to get the school to give him. And, if you think that Bullard will do a better job of keeping your kid challenged, you just might find yourself upset. Bullard has the same challenges almost all public schools have: they have to teach everyone. Smart kids who want to learn, dumb kids who do not.


We pay taxes for our kids to learn. Whether it be kids with disabilities needing special classes, kids needing extra help, or kids needing more challenging work, it's a teacher's job to identify kids who are struggling or kids who are more advanced so they can get extra help or extra work. Most kids will be on approximately the same level, but there will always be a kid or two who is really behind and a kid who needs more challenging work.

My son was in private pre-k, and it was the same deal. I basically paid for him to go and color. I am not saying the other kids are dumb and that my child is a genius...but it just makes me mad that this teacher had an attitude about a period on his paper when he wrote several sentences and the other papers I saw only had one. It was not said in a nice way. I guess you would all have to be there, but it was a "Yes, I've heard your kid is smart from other people, but look what he didn't do." Not..."He reads and writes well, but he does forget his periods a lot." That would have been better than the attitude she had and the way she said it. That was in addition to the other things she said about him, so I was already mad at that point.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:34 PM

just because your child is smart doesn't mean that your child always follows directions. just because your child was good at following directions in the past doesn't mean that he wont occasionally be defiant in the future.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:41 PM

View PostNC-17, on 22 August 2011 - 06:34 PM, said:

just because your child is smart doesn't mean that your child always follows directions. just because your child was good at following directions in the past doesn't mean that he wont occasionally be defiant in the future.


Yes...that is true. And that's why I asked her about it. At the same time, while I understand he's not always going to be an angel, the classroom rewards are very important to him, and I know how important they are. He is so worried every day about staying on the right color...just as he has been for the past two years. I'm not really worried, because everyone else knows he is a good kid, but I am worried there is favoritism in this classroom. That is the real issue with me, and there are more things that go into my suspicion of this, and one is out of the mouth of another parent (not about my child).
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:46 PM

View Postasdfasdfasdfasd, on 22 August 2011 - 05:27 PM, said:

Well, I went to Taco Bell and got my son something to eat to take to the school. His lunch is at 10:45. I sat in the lunchroom for 20 minutes waiting, and they never came. I finally went to the classroom, and the teacher said she was sorry but that she forgot to tell parents that lunch changed to 11:45 for testing. Well, thanks.

I then asked her if my son wasn't behaving, and she basically said that whenever she tells the kids to clean up and sit on the floor, things like that, that she will look over and my son will still be sitting at his desk...and that it's not just him...that there are a couple others who do the same.

After a few minutes of talking, I said that I thought he was probably a little bored too. She goes, "Oh, well let me show you this...I've heard about how smart he is..." and proceeds to walk over to a place on the wall where they have put papers up that the kids have written sentences on. She was looking for my son's, and when she found his, she pointed out that he missed a period or two on the sentences and that they were working on that.

REALLY? First of all...his paper was full...he had written several sentences...and all the other papers that I saw when she was looking for his only had one. Sentences like "Riding in car," whereas my child basically filled up the whole page, yet she had the audacity to point out that he forgot to put a period at the end. I was a little annoyed and said, "Well, I never said he was a great writer...I said he was a great reader." And then she was like, "Oh, yeah, he is a very good reader, and he's a great speller and is good at math too." OKAY...so what is the problem with him forgetting a period? I just don't know why she told me that (she said it with a certain attitude). It was almost as if she were saying, "Yes, I've heard about how smart your son is, but look...look what he did!!"

And then she rambled about how my son always comes in either just a few minutes before or right at the bell. She asked me about a week ago to try to get him there at least by 7:50. They have "morning work," and apparently my son along with a few others are not able to finish it. I'm sorry, but WHEN DID SCHOOL STARTING AT 8 TURN INTO 7:45? They should not be doing ANY work other than busy work until the bell rings! If she wants to make her own rules, she needs to start her own school!

I have never had a problem with a teacher like this.

I guess she knew she was going on and on about him, because finally she said, "Oh, well I don't want you to think I'm downing him." Well...that's exactly what she was doing! Picking on my son because he left out a period when the other kids wrote preschool sentences? NO, MA'AM! My son can read books like Chronicles of Narnia...how dare she point out to me that he forgot a period and act like it's a big deal! It's not like he doesn't know where they go...he FORGETS...just like all kids forget things.

Really steaming...and I am going down there tomorrow to examine the other students' work and have a talk with the principal. Funny how everyone else in the school loves my son, but she seems to think he's not listening. Well, maybe he senses that she doesn't like him. I even said to him in front of her that she said he wasn't listening well, and he said, "That's not true. She just doesn't like me." He said that right in front of her, but I don't think she heard him because another kid had come out and asked her something.

I do not like this teacher, and I honestly knew I didn't even before all of this happened. There have been things my son has told me that just clearly show favoritism in this classroom. The vice principal told me last year that my son's previous teacher told her not to tell but that my son was her favorite...but even still, she treated all the kids the same....she didn't favor my son in class, and that's how it should be.





I'm guessing that you don't know that you can't take outside restaurant food into a school cafeteria that has federal funding, right? You can cause them to lose their funding if you happen to be there when the inspectors are.

And, here's how I see it - you're pissed. Most parents aren't careful hide this from their children. So, now, son knows that mommy doesn't like the teacher and thinks the teacher is unreasonable. So, son starts being a little defiant. That leads to this show down where you were pissed before you ever got into the classroom - she's defensive because she's got this borderline crazy mom coming into her classroom, confronting her about little Johnny. And, it didn't go well.

Look - every parent in kindergarten thinks their kid is smart and not challenged enough or has issues and needs special help. They've had ten days of school. Geez. I think she can have some slack that she hasn't quite figured out every personality in that classroom.

You need to chill out and back off. So what if he's a little defiant about getting up as quickly as she wants. Fact is that it's good for him to learn that other adults matter as well.

And, my opinion, Bullard has higher test scores because it's from a much high socio economic area that Poole. Poole has issues with their kids have clothes, food, and heat in the winter. Bullard has issues with sports and art class conflicting with homework.

But, from the sounds of it, if I were you - I'd pull him now - home school him or find a private first grade for him until you move. You're not going to be happy no matter what happens. And, he's going to continue to act up.

Sorry - being blunt.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:47 PM

I can see why your kid gets worked up over things like staying on the right color - he gets anxiety from you!!

You have such a screwed up version of what teachers or schools should or should not do.

I think you are a well meaning mom but, if you came into my classroom with the attitude you have shown on this thread, I would give you attitude also.


View Postasdfasdfasdfasd, on 22 August 2011 - 06:32 PM, said:

We pay taxes for our kids to learn. Whether it be kids with disabilities needing special classes, kids needing extra help, or kids needing more challenging work, it's a teacher's job to identify kids who are struggling or kids who are more advanced so they can get extra help or extra work. Most kids will be on approximately the same level, but there will always be a kid or two who is really behind and a kid who needs more challenging work.

My son was in private pre-k, and it was the same deal. I basically paid for him to go and color. I am not saying the other kids are dumb and that my child is a genius...but it just makes me mad that this teacher had an attitude about a period on his paper when he wrote several sentences and the other papers I saw only had one. It was not said in a nice way. I guess you would all have to be there, but it was a "Yes, I've heard your kid is smart from other people, but look what he didn't do." Not..."He reads and writes well, but he does forget his periods a lot." That would have been better than the attitude she had and the way she said it. That was in addition to the other things she said about him, so I was already mad at that point.

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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:48 PM

View Postasdfasdfasdfasd, on 22 August 2011 - 08:37 AM, said:

I asked my son about the note she put in his agenda, and he said it's not true...that he listens and that she just doesn't like him. Why a 6-year-old would say that, I don't know...unless it were true.



Because he's six.
And even at six, they know how to CYA.

Relax.
He got a "note" sent home. No big deal.
If it's the worse thing he ever does at school, consider yourself lucky.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:50 PM

View PostJust thinkin, on 22 August 2011 - 06:46 PM, said:

I'm guessing that you don't know that you can't take outside restaurant food into a school cafeteria that has federal funding, right? You can cause them to lose their funding if you happen to be there when the inspectors are.

And, here's how I see it - you're pissed. Most parents aren't careful hide this from their children. So, now, son knows that mommy doesn't like the teacher and thinks the teacher is unreasonable. So, son starts being a little defiant. That leads to this show down where you were pissed before you ever got into the classroom - she's defensive because she's got this borderline crazy mom coming into her classroom, confronting her about little Johnny. And, it didn't go well.

Look - every parent in kindergarten thinks their kid is smart and not challenged enough or has issues and needs special help. They've had ten days of school. Geez. I think she can have some slack that she hasn't quite figured out every personality in that classroom.

You need to chill out and back off. So what if he's a little defiant about getting up as quickly as she wants. Fact is that it's good for him to learn that other adults matter as well.

And, my opinion, Bullard has higher test scores because it's from a much high socio economic area that Poole. Poole has issues with their kids have clothes, food, and heat in the winter. Bullard has issues with sports and art class conflicting with homework.

But, from the sounds of it, if I were you - I'd pull him now - home school him or find a private first grade for him until you move. You're not going to be happy no matter what happens. And, he's going to continue to act up.

Sorry - being blunt.



I never said a bad thing about his teacher before this happened, and I still haven't. I asked him several times if he was listening to his teacher and doing what she said. The only reason I asked her today about this was because I had to go to the class to give him his lunch.

And, that's not true about fast food. I asked permission last year about bringing restaurant food, and they said they used not to allow it but that you can now. I bring him happy meals and such quite often.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:51 PM

View Postasdfasdfasdfasd, on 22 August 2011 - 06:41 PM, said:

Yes...that is true. And that's why I asked her about it. At the same time, while I understand he's not always going to be an angel, the classroom rewards are very important to him, and I know how important they are. He is so worried every day about staying on the right color...just as he has been for the past two years. I'm not really worried, because everyone else knows he is a good kid, but I am worried there is favoritism in this classroom. That is the real issue with me, and there are more things that go into my suspicion of this, and one is out of the mouth of another parent (not about my child).

seems like you are more worried about your child not being the favorite than you are about favoritism in general.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:51 PM

Sweet baby, Jesus! HE IS SIX! He is probably still eating his boogers and you think he is a rocket scientist?! Lady, you are not going to make it through all 11 years he has left if you are like this in 1st grade.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:52 PM

View PostGarland, on 22 August 2011 - 06:51 PM, said:

Sweet baby, Jesus! HE IS SIX! He is probably still eating his boogers and you think he is a rocket scientist?! Lady, you are not going to make it through all 11 years he has left if you are like this in 1st grade.


Actually, he does not eat his boogers, thanks...and never has. He actually knows what germs are.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:57 PM

View PostGarland, on 22 August 2011 - 06:51 PM, said:

Sweet baby, Jesus! HE IS SIX! He is probably still eating his boogers and you think he is a rocket scientist?! Lady, you are not going to make it through all 11 years he has left if you are like this in 1st grade.



Ok.....that made me :rofl:!!!

And I'm out of positive votes for the day!!!
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:57 PM

Good Lord!

Take your titty out the boys mouth.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:57 PM

View PostTwoKidCircus, on 22 August 2011 - 06:47 PM, said:

I can see why your kid gets worked up over things like staying on the right color - he gets anxiety from you!!

You have such a screwed up version of what teachers or schools should or should not do.

I think you are a well meaning mom but, if you came into my classroom with the attitude you have shown on this thread, I would give you attitude also.


No...you are wrong. It is the TEACHER who makes such a huge deal about staying on a "color." Last year in kindergarten, I picked him up from school, and he was bawling his eyes out because he thought he had moved into the neutral behavior color and didn't get a prize. In reality, it was not that way...only one kid got a prize that day. It's the toys and stickers and special things they let them do that has the kids crazy about staying on a color. Unfortunately, most kids don't even care...but my son takes it seriously. I didn't push him into that...I have told him many times (when another kid was hitting him last year and taking his lunch) to defend himself and that I didn't care if he moved off of green.

And...I never gave her an attitude today. I simply asked her a question, let her talk, and I just said okay. I'm not going to get rude with a teacher in front of my kids...especially the one of my kids that is her student.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:59 PM

View PostPapi, on 22 August 2011 - 06:57 PM, said:

Good Lord!

Take your titty out the boys mouth.



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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:59 PM

And, with that - I'm walking away.

Lady - you need to calm down. I don't what you think your behavior has been. I can tell you right now - that teacher, that class, and your son knew exactly what was going on no matter how well you think you hid it. If he didn't (and they didn't) - then he's no where near as smart as you think he is.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 06:59 PM

Actually, boogers are mucus. They only get germy when they come into contact with germy fingers.

View Postasdfasdfasdfasd, on 22 August 2011 - 06:52 PM, said:

Actually, he does not eat his boogers, thanks...and never has. He actually knows what germs are.

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Posted 22 August 2011 - 07:02 PM

I will echo what others have said, you need to step back and breathe. I think you are putting unrealistic expectations on the school, teachers and your own kid.


View Postasdfasdfasdfasd, on 22 August 2011 - 06:57 PM, said:

No...you are wrong. It is the TEACHER who makes such a huge deal about staying on a "color." Last year in kindergarten, I picked him up from school, and he was bawling his eyes out because he thought he had moved into the neutral behavior color and didn't get a prize. In reality, it was not that way...only one kid got a prize that day. It's the toys and stickers and special things they let them do that has the kids crazy about staying on a color. Unfortunately, most kids don't even care...but my son takes it seriously. I didn't push him into that...I have told him many times (when another kid was hitting him last year and taking his lunch) to defend himself and that I didn't care if he moved off of green.

And...I never gave her an attitude today. I simply asked her a question, let her talk, and I just said okay. I'm not going to get rude with a teacher in front of my kids...especially the one of my kids that is her student.

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Posted 22 August 2011 - 07:07 PM

View PostHiramGirl, on 22 August 2011 - 06:59 PM, said:

Actually, boogers are mucus. They only get germy when they come into contact with germy fingers.


Are you stupid? The very purpose of our nose is trap germs and dirt. Let's everyone just sneeze everywhere...since boogers and mucus contain no germs.

View PostJust thinkin, on 22 August 2011 - 06:59 PM, said:

And, with that - I'm walking away.

Lady - you need to calm down. I don't what you think your behavior has been. I can tell you right now - that teacher, that class, and your son knew exactly what was going on no matter how well you think you hid it. If he didn't (and they didn't) - then he's no where near as smart as you think he is.


I know they didn't...we were outside in the hall. The door was closed. My son came out at the end of our talk, and that is when I told him the teacher said he was not following directions.

View PostHiramGirl, on 22 August 2011 - 06:59 PM, said:

Actually, boogers are mucus. They only get germy when they come into contact with germy fingers.


I really cannot believe that your post got voted up. Anyone here who thinks boogers are clean before a dirty finger touches them is a complete idiot. Every time you breathe, you are breathing in germs from the air. But no...it's totally clean and germ free. Totally.

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Posted 22 August 2011 - 07:10 PM

View Postasdfasdfasdfasd, on 22 August 2011 - 07:07 PM, said:

Are you stupid? The very purpose of our nose is trap germs and dirt. Let's everyone just sneeze everywhere...since boogers and mucus contain no germs.



I know they didn't...we were outside in the hall. The door was closed. My son came out at the end of our talk, and that is when I told him the teacher said he was not following directions.



I really cannot believe that your post got voted up. Anyone here who thinks boogers are clean before a dirty finger touches them is a complete idiot. Every time you breathe, you are breathing in germs from the air. But no...it's totally clean and germ free. Totally.


You're going to make a stand on a booger comment and we are to take you seriously on everything else you have said. Get a grip.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 07:14 PM

Valium. this kid needs Valium.

and the mom needs a reality check. or a hobby.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 07:15 PM

View PostPapi, on 22 August 2011 - 07:10 PM, said:

You're going to make a stand on a booger comment and we are to take you seriously on everything else you have said. Get a grip.


I just thought she and everyone else should know that boogers really do have germs. With her logic, it's okay to pick and eat them with a clean finger.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 07:16 PM

View Postasdfasdfasdfasd, on 22 August 2011 - 07:15 PM, said:

I just thought she and everyone else should know that boogers really do have germs. With her logic, it's okay to pick and eat them with a clean finger.


Bless your heart.
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Posted 22 August 2011 - 07:16 PM

I can't believe I am in a booger fight with you. :rolleyes:

Whatever. Not all nose mucous is germy. Your boogers maybe germy or may not be. Not everything you breathe in through your nose is germs. More often than not, boogers become germy when in contact with your germy fingers.

View Postasdfasdfasdfasd, on 22 August 2011 - 07:07 PM, said:

Are you stupid? The very purpose of our nose is trap germs and dirt. Let's everyone just sneeze everywhere...since boogers and mucus contain no germs.



I know they didn't...we were outside in the hall. The door was closed. My son came out at the end of our talk, and that is when I told him the teacher said he was not following directions.



I really cannot believe that your post got voted up. Anyone here who thinks boogers are clean before a dirty finger touches them is a complete idiot. Every time you breathe, you are breathing in germs from the air. But no...it's totally clean and germ free. Totally.

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Posted 22 August 2011 - 07:18 PM

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