[momof 3]

I had invitations with 'Pizza Party' and all the other vital info printed, sent them out for 3rd graders birthday party and got this response......'well, little Janey doesn't like pizza, what else are you planning to serve'? My initial reaction was, 'ice cream and cake', but do I change the plan and make something special for this child or stick to it and hope she eats before she comes?

In this same situation, I would feed my child before arrival and tell him to be polite and say no thank you to anything he didn't like. I'm a little confused here.

[*Topic Closer*]

Stick to it and hope she comes! That's ridiculous, you would want her there to have fun with your child not because she likes the food your serving. Wow. Some people.

[K96W8]

I would go with your first answer--ice cream and cake. I can't believe someone would ask you that.

[gaheart]

I wouldn't worry about it. Most kids are so busy playing alot of times they do not eat. I would not go out of my way to cater to one kid. It's your child's birthday not Janey's. I would nicely tell the other parent "sorry it's a pizza party and that is what is being served......hope she can join us for cake and fun."

[momof 3]

So it's not just me then?

[KRM]

momof 3, on 23 August 2010 - 10:44 AM, said:

I had invitations with 'Pizza Party' and all the other vital info printed, sent them out for 3rd graders birthday party and got this response......'well, little Janey doesn't like pizza, what else are you planning to serve'? My initial reaction was, 'ice cream and cake', but do I change the plan and make something special for this child or stick to it and hope she eats before she comes?

In this same situation, I would feed my child before arrival and tell him to be polite and say no thank you to anything he didn't like. I'm a little confused here.

Well, I am not a fan of pizza. That said, I would certainly not ask someone to change or add to their menu if they were planning to serve it. I'd just eat before I came. Little Janey and her Mom need to learn a few manners!!!

[sugail]

I would suggest the parent might want to feed the child at home before they come to the party, since it is a pizza party.

[SPORTS SOURCE]

momof 3, on 23 August 2010 - 10:49 AM, said:

So it's not just me then?

NOPE!

[jenilyn]

momof 3, on 23 August 2010 - 10:44 AM, said:

I had invitations with 'Pizza Party' and all the other vital info printed, sent them out for 3rd graders birthday party and got this response......'well, little Janey doesn't like pizza, what else are you planning to serve'? My initial reaction was, 'ice cream and cake', but do I change the plan and make something special for this child or stick to it and hope she eats before she comes?

In this same situation, I would feed my child before arrival and tell him to be polite and say no thank you to anything he didn't like. I'm a little confused here.

um yea!! That's hilarious! My kid is the most picky eater on the face of the earth! I deal with this almost everywhere we go. the kid can eat before or after the party. I would never expect anyone to change their menu for my kid.

BTW my child also does notlike pizza, what the heck??? who dosen't like pizza?!

[*Topic Closer*]

I'm going to go on a limb and say this child and her mom are a wee bit spoiled.

[Riograce]

A child who doesn't like pizza. What is the world coming to?

Tell little Janey's mother that there will be ice cream and cake and you hope she can come. But do NOT, under any circumstances, prepare anything different for the mini-diva.

[BabeCake]

Really, I wouldn't think anything of it. I wouldn't take it as she's trying to get you to change your menu.

She's probably just trying to see if there are any other options or if she needs to either send something or feed her child before the party. Don't let it ruin your day. It's probably just a poorly worded, honest question.

Be a duck.

[Lucky64]

She wants to go and have fun with her classmates at your son's birthday party, that's understandable. For the food, and this might just be me. I would have some fruits or veggies for all the kids to munch on, so that might help tie her over until cake and ice cream. Now, I wouldn't go out of my way to cook something that she might like, but I would look at the whole picture on what your son and the other kids would like as an addition.

[momof 3]

We are having pizza, fruit, cake and ice cream. Thats the plan.

Thanks, ya'll!!!!!!!

[SPORTS SOURCE]

*Topic Closer*, on 23 August 2010 - 10:54 AM, said:

I'm going to go on a limb and say this child and her mom are a wee bit spoiled.

Ya think?????

[Lucky64]

momof 3, on 23 August 2010 - 11:11 AM, said:

We are having pizza, fruit, cake and ice cream. Thats the plan.

Thanks, ya'll!!!!!!!

Then I say (just me) she has plenty to choose from. Especially when there will be fruit and drinks. Besides, do children at that age really stop to eat and finsih eating? No, they rather play, open gifts, and do whatever...

[dumbestgirlintheworld]

Dear Ungrateful mom,

Our menu will also steak tar tar, foie gras and a sampling of caviar and pate served on entertainment crackers. Little Johnny is registered at Toys R Us and Target.

We look forward to having you join us to celebrate Johnny's 9th birthday!

Warm regards,

Johnny's Mom

[momof 3]

dumbestgirlintheworld, on 23 August 2010 - 11:17 AM, said:

Dear Ungrateful mom,

Our menu will also steak tar tar, foie gras and a sampling of caviar and pate served on entertainment crackers. Little Johnny is registered at Toys R Us and Target.

We look forward to having you join us to celebrate Johnny's 9th birthday!

Warm regards,

Johnny's Mom

I like that!!!!

[PauldingMommy]

I recently had the SAME thing happen - not food, but the venue. Their child didn't like where we are going and said because of that they would not attend. Ofcourse my child was upset, and ALL I could think if my child did not like something about someone else's birthday party - it to TEACH them a lesson - IT IS ABOUT THE BIRTHDAY CHILD - right? I mean I want my child's friends to enjoy and have fun, but it is MY child's birthday....

I don't feel bad, wouldn't change a thing...it is that kid's missed opportunity for fun!

[mei lan]

momof 3, on 23 August 2010 - 10:49 AM, said:

So it's not just me then?

NO, it is not just you. What was it you said in that other thread that I said I'm gonna quote for 80% of my responses from now on? Oh, yeah...PEOPLE ARE NUTS.

[momof 3]

PauldingMommy, on 23 August 2010 - 11:54 AM, said:

I recently had the SAME thing happen - not food, but the venue. Their child didn't like where we are going and said because of that they would not attend. Ofcourse my child was upset, and ALL I could think if my child did not like something about someone else's birthday party - it to TEACH them a lesson - IT IS ABOUT THE BIRTHDAY CHILD - right? I mean I want my child's friends to enjoy and have fun, but it is MY child's birthday....

I don't feel bad, wouldn't change a thing...it is that kid's missed opportunity for fun!

WOW! I guess I can stop wondering where the 'I'm entitled' attitude comes from and I'm seeing it more and more thee days.

[footballbeerchic]

You should ask what lil Janey likes and serve her meal on a silver platter and make all those other kids eat plain old pizza. Couth anyone??

[MrsApple]

Riograce, on 23 August 2010 - 10:55 AM, said:

A child who doesn't like pizza. What is the world coming to?

Tell little Janey's mother that there will be ice cream and cake and you hope she can come. But do NOT, under any circumstances, prepare anything different for the mini-diva.

I didn't like Pizza growing up...I think I was in 8th grade before I started liking it,now I could eat pizza every day

But my mom would NEVER have asked anyone to make something special for me to eat,or change their menu for me.I ate before I went to pizza parties!This child sounds S.P.O.I.L.E.D!

[momof 3]

MrsApple, on 23 August 2010 - 12:15 PM, said:

I didn't like Pizza growing up...I think I was in 8th grade before I started liking it,now I could eat pizza every day

But my mom would NEVER have asked anyone to make something special for me to eat,or change their menu for me.I ate before I went to pizza parties!This child sounds S.P.O.I.L.E.D!

I actually questioned 3rd grader wanting to invite her, we've known her since kindergarten and shes not my fave, but he likes her and said she is always nice to him. What do you do?

[Adam&Jessica]

My oldest is incredibly picky, but anytime we go to someone else's home or to an event, he eats what's served, or he waits til we get home. I would never dream of asking someone, especially someone I didn't know well, to change their menu for any reason other than allergy.

I'm not sure I'd even bother responding to the parents.

This post has been edited by Adam&Jessica: 23 August 2010 - 12:22 PM

[griffin2]

If it were my child, I would feed her before the party and let her go and have a good time. Just sayin

[Cyan]

momof 3, on 23 August 2010 - 10:44 AM, said:

I had invitations with 'Pizza Party' and all the other vital info printed, sent them out for 3rd graders birthday party and got this response......'well, little Janey doesn't like pizza, what else are you planning to serve'? My initial reaction was, 'ice cream and cake', but do I change the plan and make something special for this child or stick to it and hope she eats before she comes?

In this same situation, I would feed my child before arrival and tell him to be polite and say no thank you to anything he didn't like. I'm a little confused here.

[Just Denise]

If it were my child I would either feed her before she went, send her with a meal/snack or tell her to get over herself.

If I were you I would respond to the parent with... She can bring something for herself or you are welcome to feed her before she arrives.

It's not just you.

[Cyan]

I like the reply ice cream and cake but tell them if they want to send a sandwich that would be fine. There is always that one person who wants you to change everything around for them. Stick to your guns and say the birthday child wants pizza!

[gonefromhere]

momof 3, on 23 August 2010 - 10:49 AM, said:

So it's not just me then?

Nope, just give the kid a peanut butter sandwich if you want to, nothing special. It's not the kids fault.

[markdavd]

Y'all are assuming the worst, forgetting that in writing attitudes and emotions don't come across easily, and what someone writes might come across differently than they mean it.

The mom could have meant: 'Little Janey doesn't like pizza. Can you tell me what else you are you planning to serve so I know if I should feed her before I bring her?' She just wouldn't have thought what she wrote would be taken so mean-spiritedly.

[♥GaLinemansWife♥]

KRM, on 23 August 2010 - 10:50 AM, said:

Well, I am not a fan of pizza. That said, I would certainly not ask someone to change or add to their menu if they were planning to serve it. I'd just eat before I came. Little Janey and her Mom need to learn a few manners!!!

And this is why kids behave the way they do this day in age

[momof 3]

markdavd, on 23 August 2010 - 01:59 PM, said:

Y'all are assuming the worst, forgetting that in writing attitudes and emotions don't come across easily, and what someone writes might come across differently than they mean it.

The mom could have meant: 'Little Janey doesn't like pizza. Can you tell me what else you are you planning to serve so I know if I should feed her before I bring her?' She just wouldn't have thought what she wrote would be taken so mean-spiritedly.

She didn't write it, she called me. They were going to be out all morning and wanted to drop her off and she wanted me to know that Janey didn't like pizza and wanted to know what else I was going to feed her. She didn't mention feeding her first.

[Jet_man1969]

momof 3, on 23 August 2010 - 10:44 AM, said:

I had invitations with 'Pizza Party' and all the other vital info printed, sent them out for 3rd graders birthday party and got this response......'well, little Janey doesn't like pizza, what else are you planning to serve'? My initial reaction was, 'ice cream and cake', but do I change the plan and make something special for this child or stick to it and hope she eats before she comes?

In this same situation, I would feed my child before arrival and tell him to be polite and say no thank you to anything he didn't like. I'm a little confused here.

screw em, kid probably wont even show up.

[LPPT]

momof 3, on 23 August 2010 - 10:44 AM, said:

I had invitations with 'Pizza Party' and all the other vital info printed, sent them out for 3rd graders birthday party and got this response......'well, little Janey doesn't like pizza, what else are you planning to serve'? My initial reaction was, 'ice cream and cake', but do I change the plan and make something special for this child or stick to it and hope she eats before she comes?

In this same situation, I would feed my child before arrival and tell him to be polite and say no thank you to anything he didn't like. I'm a little confused here.

My son is on a very restricted diet, I probably would have ask the same so that I could feed him before hand, I would have never said my child did not like it.
Many friends that know of his restrictions ask me about making something for him and I tell them not to worry.
He is somewhat embarrassed if he gets there and something special has been made for him.
He doesn't want any attention over having to eat differently.

My picky eater was just the opposite, seemed to love the disruptions she caused when the food did not suit her, she also loves to see things put on the table just for her

[gardengirl66]

momof 3, on 23 August 2010 - 10:49 AM, said:

So it's not just me then?

I think it is rude of the mom to ask such a thing, if her child does not eat pizza then she needs to feed them before she comes. The right thing to do is what you are doing, serving Pizza, cake and ice cream. Don't change it.

[JBrigman]

Just be glad you got an RSVP, people apparently never do that anymore these days.

So just my PSA for the day -- please RSVP to parties you're invited too, even if it's just a quick e-mail saying, sorry dear little Sally can't make it.

[Riograce]

markdavd, on 23 August 2010 - 01:59 PM, said:

Y'all are assuming the worst, forgetting that in writing attitudes and emotions don't come across easily, and what someone writes might come across differently than they mean it.

The mom could have meant: 'Little Janey doesn't like pizza. Can you tell me what else you are you planning to serve so I know if I should feed her before I bring her?' She just wouldn't have thought what she wrote would be taken so mean-spiritedly.

There's nothing mean-spirited in these responses. When the mom asked 'What else are you planning to serve,' she presumed that something else *was* being served. That's rude.

Little Janey's mom could have done one of two things that would have been perfectly acceptable and polite:

- Phoned MomOf3 and said that Little Janey wouldn't be able to attend due to other plans

or

- Fed Little Janey a snack ahead of time, told her to say 'No, thank you' when the pizza was given out and 'Thank you' when she was given cake and ice cream.

Bottom line: if you think your kid is going to be placed in an uncomfortable but non-essential situation (like a birthday party), you either let them avoid it or teach them how to handle it gracefully. This mom failed to do either.

[Lady Raider]

jenilyn, on 23 August 2010 - 10:54 AM, said:

um yea!! That's hilarious! My kid is the most picky eater on the face of the earth! I deal with this almost everywhere we go. the kid can eat before or after the party. I would never expect anyone to change their menu for my kid.

BTW my child also does notlike pizza, what the heck??? who dosen't like pizza?!

**raisinghand**

[Just thinkin' hard]

PauldingMommy, on 23 August 2010 - 11:54 AM, said:

I recently had the SAME thing happen - not food, but the venue. Their child didn't like where we are going and said because of that they would not attend. Ofcourse my child was upset, and ALL I could think if my child did not like something about someone else's birthday party - it to TEACH them a lesson - IT IS ABOUT THE BIRTHDAY CHILD - right? I mean I want my child's friends to enjoy and have fun, but it is MY child's birthday....

I don't feel bad, wouldn't change a thing...it is that kid's missed opportunity for fun!

We've been on the other end of that situation. My youngest refuses to go to Pump it up parties anymore - he's had two twisted ankles and a chipped tooth from that place - boys his age are rough and tumble there. When his bf what to have his party there - mine just asked him if they could go to lunch later. He didn't expect a change in venue. But, he will not go back.